Okay so for two and a half years I was with this dude who was always aggressive and did the bare minimum. Wild thing is I didn't even want a relationship at first. He like pressured me into it and somehow I caved. And then I was putting in all the effort obvi.
For two whole years I gave him endless second chances thinking maybe he'd change. Spoiler alert he didn't.
He'd always flip stuff to be about him. he'd say punching walls or breaking bottles was just him letting out anger but it always felt like he was trying to lowkey scare me. Made me walk on eggshells around his moods.
All last year I tried to dip, but every time he'd emotionally manipulate me into staying. Guilt trips, empty promises the whole shebang. Made me feel like I was the problem like I was too much or too sensitive. Nah fam.
The final straw? My birthday. He caused a whole scene 'cause a guy friend from high school (who I hadn't seen in ages) sent a simple Happy Birthday. That's it. And somehow that set him off.
In the middle of the street he grabbed my hand hard yanked me so bad I almost ate pavement. I was so embarrassed in front of everyone, totally shaken. It wasn't just disrespectful it was actually scary. And it wasn't even the first time he'd crossed a line like that.
After all that when I finally yeeted him out of my life for good he blamed me. Said I didn't try hard enough to save the relationship. After two and a half years of his aggression selfishness and manipulation—he said I gave up too easily. Pfft.
It's been four months since I ghosted his existence. Blocked him everywhere no contact. But somehow he still slides into my DMs with new numbers and random accounts, still trying to guilt trip me still saying I left without a last chance. Bruh.
I'm so proud of myself for finally choosing me. For knowing my worth you know? But the anger and hate are still kinda heavy. Don't know what to do with it. Just want peace but it's like I'm still carrying all his baggage.
Last updated on:2025-05-09T09:44:23+05:30
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Hey Congratulations first of all for choosing you.It seems like you have gone through a lot and you deserve to choose Yourself.Hope you have a joyfu and peacefull life ahead and a partner who actually loves you and not his ego ?
Blocking him wasn’t just about no contact it was about reclaiming yourself. Keep choosing that freedom no matter how hard it feels.
He keeps reaching out because he knows he lost someone irreplaceable. But that’s not your burden anymore you owe him nothing.
The hate is heavy but it’s not yours to carry. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting it means choosing to stop letting his energy control you.
You were never the problem. He twisted reality made you question your worth and tried to trap you in his chaos. But you broke free and that’s powerful.
You didn’t give up too easily you endured far too much. Choosing yourself wasn’t the easy way out it was the strongest thing you could’ve done.
Breaking free from manipulation isn’t just about leaving it’s about unlearning everything they made you believe. You did the right thing and now it’s time to fully reclaim your peace.
Maybe peep yin yoga
Good on you Keep pushing..