like a year and a half ago I was hanging with this girl totally fell for her. Best six months ever thought she was the cutest. She said she liked me cared gave her the feels and all that. I just wanted her to be happy ya know? But then she started acting distant pulling away and wouldn't say what was up. I was so patient tried to be a good guy. But every time we got close she'd just ghost outta nowhere.
We'd chill every other weekend. She started acting weird late August. Said she liked me in July.
She started school in September and I went to see her. The night before we were all flirty over text sending kissy emojis and stuff. But when I got to her place she was just... chill. Then her roommate dropped the bomb that she hooked up with some dude the night before someone she'd been seeing since September started.
I totally lost it flipped out and left. Needed to process my feels. The next night we tried to talk didn't go well. I was pissed she was messed up about what she did. During the talk we found out some stuff. Turns out while we were together that summer she was hooking up with four other guys. And another older dude in September (roommate told me) plus that other guy. My head was spinning with all the feels. She was the first girl to ever say she cared and had feelings for me and I felt the same.
We were both confused about what to do. I just left and hung with my friends at the same college. Went back to her apartment that night 'cause I was gonna crash there. Heard her in her room having sex with some dude she met at the bar at 3 AM. All I could do was Uber home in the middle of the night. Never saw or talked to her again. I'm still messed up and got major trust issues. The worst part? All those seven guys got with her but I spent the most time with her and had a real connection. I'm also a virgin (my choice tho) really wanted it to be her was just waiting for the right time but it never happened. She unfollowed and blocked me. During our talk she said I know you'll be a good boyfriend and it scares me. Those words are stuck in my head forever. There were tears on both sides.
That was my first dating thing ever and it kinda ruined it for me. I'm so scared to try again.
Last updated on:2025-05-13T12:46:46+05:30
Comments (8)
Love isn’t supposed to feel this confusing. When it’s right it won’t make you doubt yourself it’ll feel like home.
Trust issues after something like this are valid but remember not everyone will treat you the way she did. The right person won’t make you question everything.
It sucks that she blocked you but honestly? That’s probably a blessing. It might hurt now but no contact will help you heal faster.
The fact that she told you she was scared of you being a good boyfriend? Says a lot. Some people run from something real because they don’t know how to handle it.
Trust issues after something like this? Totally understandable.
You didn’t deserve any of that. Her actions weren’t a reflection of you they were a reflection of where she was in her life.
The hardest part isn’t even losing her it’s losing the idea of what you thought you had. Processing all that takes time.
That’s a tough first experience with love. You gave your heart your trust and your time it’s okay to feel hurt. But don’t let this situation convince you that love always goes this way.