so my ex who I was with for like four years is still acting super controlling and possessive even though we broke up three months ago

so my ex who I was with for like four years is still acting super controlling and possessive even though we broke up three months ago.
I dumped him cuz he wasnt serious about me wouldnt take me to family stuff unless he felt like it and his last words were basically My uncle could get your dad fired with one word. My dad works for his uncle whos gonna be the new boss so its a high-up position.
Hes telling everyone he has no clue why we broke up and that I didnt say anything even though we talked after his threat and I said we werent compatible and should move on. But people believe him which is so sad and makes me doubt everything like did I do the right thing? Maybe its all in my head? Maybe hes a good person? But then I remember all the messed-up stuff he did and somethings def off with him but I cant put my finger on it.
Im thinking hes got NPD. Peep these red flags Ive already seen: kicking me out of his car yelling cussing me out slamming doors and the steering wheel kicking bottles belittling me controlling who I hung with where I went and why complaining I spent too much time with others wanting to control our future money saying itd be ours but not wanting to provide or take responsibility always getting mad when he had to devaluing me not wanting to hold my hand in public or post pics with me lying and gaslighting about a secret account saying it doesnt count cuz he doesnt use it much and the list goes on.
Ever since I said it was over after the job threat hes been all sorry showing up at my house wanting to talk to my parents calling and texting non-stop even turned my old couple friends against me – they're all team ex now feeling bad for him. Hes even stalking me still does comes to my neighborhood waited for me outside once cuz my friend told him I was going out with them. For Valentines he brought me a gift even though we were broken up and made a big scene at our internship like nothing was wrong then left the gift in my yard when I didnt take it.
Then on our would-be anniversary he shows up with cake and a giant teddy bear. Dad told him no gifts again so he took them but brought my turned friends with him for backup. Havent talked to those friends since.
For Easter he left eggs for everyone in my fam and a box of chocolates in the yard. Just dropped them and dipped cuz I didnt answer his call from a random number. He unfriended my parents on Facebook but still talks to them in public and asks about me like nothings wrong.
Also like every other night he drives by my house blasting songs we used to listen to probably so I know its him? Someone explain this madness! I feel like Im losing it. I cant report him yet cuz were at the same internship for one more month and he'd def try to shame me there. Plus he follows my Uber home saying its not safe for me to go alone.
A week ago he saw me with my mom with my old friends and he stopped us grabbed my hand and kissed it in front of her like it was normal. Then asked why I looked mad total ??????????. When hes with his parents he doesnt bother me. Why the switch-up? I usually go out with family now never alone.
He also flipped when I went to Italy for a project after the breakup blew up my phone about how could I do that behind his back.
He tries to get me to talk and sort things out every time were at the internship. Waits with me for my Uber and then follows me home.
I feel so pressured and get super nervous and angry whenever I see him. Hes not letting me move on without constantly reminding me he exists. Its like he hates being forgotten.
Tried to get to me through his mom too she called for days until I told her it wasnt happening.
I dont believe a word he says now its all the stuff I wanted to hear before. If I got back with him itd go back to the old ways. How can someone be like this? This feels super manipulative but why the stalking? Why all this? Im so lost.

Last updated on:2025-05-14T22:38:37+05:30