so senior year I met this dude. Skipped the deets but I got super attached even tho he never made it official more like a situationship. It was chill for like two months then month three he started ghosting. I got worried cuz he'd told me about his messed up past so when he wasn't responding I was stressing about his mental health. I was bending over backwards trying to help him through whatever he was going through. He was avoiding me at school so I gave him space felt like the only move. Told my bestie and luckily she was tight with his bestie. She talked to his friend and finally after a month of torture he texted me and apologized. Said he wasn't over his ex wasn't ready and didn't see a future with me. That lowkey broke me. Kinda got depressed thought about ending things but didn't cuz of my family. To make it worse my grandpa died and my parents were already stressed cuz of my sister and finals were coming. I gave him space but found out from a friend he was doing two mans and hooking up. Typical high school stuff ig. We graduated and summer got worse sister moved back and I was basically a mom to her kids plus college stress and wanting to enjoy my last bit of freedom. So I called him and we talked and stuff and he offered closure which was the worst cuz it got me attached again. A month later I met my current amazing boyfriend and I've been way better just some meltdowns about my ex sometimes. Then a year after our thing he got a girlfriend FROM HIGH SCHOOL. Now I'm overthinking again and I'm upset again. Why am I so hurt? Any advice? What do you think of this? What should I do?? Please help, it's making me depressed and I hate doing that to my boyfriend. I know I can move on but I just need help. I can't lose him cuz of my dumb problems.
Last updated on:2025-05-16T16:03:22+05:30
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This isn’t about losing your current relationship it’s about giving yourself grace. Healing happens when you stop blaming yourself for feeling.
Your heart hasn’t caught up to your head yet but give it time. You’re stronger than this feeling.
You’re upset because it feels like he got something with someone else that he never gave you but that’s not your fault.
Your past with him was messy but that doesn’t mean your future has to be. Don’t let nostalgia rewrite history.
It’s normal to overthink when someone who hurt you seems to have moved on so easily. But don’t let his choices control your emotions.
That kind of attachment is hard to shake but it doesn’t mean you haven’t moved forward. Healing isn’t linear.
You’re not dumb for feeling this way old wounds take time to heal especially when you never got real closure.