it has been 16 days.. it's better than it was on the first few days. keep in mind I'm also mid exams which is sooo hard. anyway. I consciously know he is not a good person and treated me with such disrespect. on the first date he told me the reason he came up to me to ask for my snap is because he made a bet with his friends to see who could get the most girls numbers in one night. he won btw.. I stayed because he said he wanted to be truthful because he thinks it's gonna go somewhere. I believed him. either way he didn't change he was still lusting over every girl he saw including in front of me. he was literally a walking red flag and I stayed with him. they do call it rose tinted glasses right? he was super manipulative and even said that the bet was a blessing because we met. completely disregarding my hurt towards me being objectified. I cut it off and now I'm left with a bad trust issue with men. I believe that every man cheats. I don't want to think this way but from what I have seen in life most men do or wish they could. I don't want that I would rather stay single and lonely forever. tell me I'm wrong. I think the trust wound is what hurts me the most.
Last updated on:2025-06-16T19:06:49+05:30
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the same with the person I had. He want girl as an object. he want a beautiful girl bcz that a pride in front of his friends.
the same with the person I had. He want girl as an object. he want a beautiful girl bcz that a pride in front of his friends.
I don’t know if the trust wound ever fully disappears but I do know this one day you’ll meet someone who makes you want to trust again. Until then focus on you
Being single isn’t a punishment it’s a reset. It’s a space where you learn to love yourself first so when the right person comes along, you won’t settle for anything less than respect.
You were manipulated into believing he cared but his actions never backed it up. Trust issues aren’t about men they’re about learning to protect yourself first before giving your heart away again.
The way he disregarded your feelings wasn’t a mistake it was a pattern. Some people will never value what they have but that doesn’t mean love isn’t real. It just means he was never capable of giving it.
You are right rose tinted glasses blinded you to the reality of his behavior. But now? You see things clearly. And that clarity is what will protect you from ever settling for less again.
I convinced myself that loneliness was safer than risking love again. And for a while it was. But one day I realized I don’t want to live in fear. Love should be chosen carefully but not avoided entirely.
The betrayal the objectification the manipulation it changes you. I let my trust issues turn into walls but eventually I had to ask myself Do I want to stay bitter, or do I want to heal?
I once believed every man was a cheater too. But over time I met people who proved me wrong men who valued honesty loyalty and respect. Your pain is valid but don’t let it define your future.
He disrespected you from day one, and yet you still gave him the benefit of the doubt. That says something about your heart not his. You were genuine while he was just playing games. You deserve real love.
I know exactly how trust issues feel the fear that every man will hurt you the way he did. But the truth is not every man is like him. The wound is deep but healing means learning that love without betrayal does exist.
Betrayal takes time to heal.Yes there are people who manipulate and Lie.But there are a lot of people who are honest and devoted as well.But sadly we get to hear more about the negative ones.but right now if you want to stay single thats totally justified.Being with oneself can be really fruitful and gives us deeper insights into our being .Wish you more peace, faith and trust in your life