My BF and I broke up like 6 months ago. We started off so good he was my dream guy totally in love. Things got too intense though and his mental health plus avoidant style messed me up bad sent me to a dark place.
I knew he wasn't the one for me cause my person wouldn't hurt me like that. I was chill with that part. But it was super hard detaching from him and our future vision. What I couldn't get over was how he hurt me after promising everything. I stick to my word I was a great partner never would've dreamed of hurting him.
Six weeks later he tried to come back literally begging (eye roll). But I knew it wouldn't last. Saw his toxic side our honeymoon phase was just dopamine highs and him obsessing over me not real love. Any other girl would hate him for what he did but I forgave him and we ended things okay.
Fast forward to 6 months post breakup now. We barely talk just react to each other's stories sometimes. Then I see him on Hinge and suddenly I'm like I NEED HIM. I know he's not good for me but him moving on before I'm healed? Not fair This random urge hits me that he's the one. I miss him don't wanna let go don't want him moving on. So I messaged him and now we're meeting up.
Why did I even do this? What's the psychology behind it? Can we actually make this work?
Last updated on:2025-05-30T12:54:43+05:30
Comments (9)
Let's be real if you take him back he's def gonna hurt you again. People don't just switch up like that.
Nah I get you! Especially if he's done this before with other girls. But my brain just gotta keep going back to him till I learn my lesson so I don't spend forever wondering what if.
@sunzara Okay but like what if you waste your time on him and miss out on someone actually great who'll respect accept and love you for you
@born2shine But what if he meets some amazing girl and gives her literally everything I wanted and I just miss out?
@sunzara Nah that's not how it works. If he could do that for someone else he'd already done it for you. He can't. And he won't.
But I hope he treats the next one better. If not then rip to her
I feel you, my first big love was with a manipulative person and I actually made the worst mistake of my life, I was so blinded by heartbreak that I decided to stay friends trust me I'm still regretting it. please dont make the same mistake you're strong and amazing you deserve better. Hope you're gonna be able to turn the page, who knows what the next chapters awaits?
thanks...fingers cross
I totally understand you..but it's actually not goof for you..it's true you love him and no matter what he'll do you'll keep on loving him but GIRLLLLL that's not youuuu.. he will again repeat the same cycle of hurting you. Do you really want your kids to have a father like him? do you want your husband to be like him??if no , then girl stop wasting your time..think ahead and live regretfree.
no i dont want hubby or my kids father to be like that.