I met lina like a year and a half ago fresh outta high school at uni. She hit me up about my Chinese class since she was tryna ditch Spanish. Back then we were both locked in relationships both ended up kinda toxic. My ex was super jealous wild. Anyway during the last few months of my old relationship I'd hang out with lina just us sometimes. Never really thought of her like that since I was committed and all. But then one day at the park everything changed. We just clicked. Like we could talk about literally anything. Our discussions on everything were so good. I fell for her whole vibe. We're different but also super similar. I'm into the geopolitical side of languages she's all about the culture. From there we just talked more and more. Everyday. For hours. Sometimes stayed up all night just joking around. The more we chilled the more I realized how much we clicked.
Fast forward to last September I finally broke up with my ex for good. Super hard decision. But I also decided to spill my feelings to lina. They weren't even super clear to me at first but I went for it. She said she didn't see me romantically. I was kinda a mess for a couple days but thought I accepted it. Nah. The more we hung out the more those feelings grew.
Since we've both been single for a bit we hang out constantly. Movies her place walks even road trips. We share everything. But our biggest thing is music we're always swapping tunes. This person's made me better than anyone else in my life.
But the more time passes the worse it gets. Especially since it's always just us two. I know she doesn't feel the same (asked her again after a concert) and not being able to love her how I want is seriously the only thing bugging me. Our bond is special, super deep. I've learned to love every part of her personality. But I'm genuinely lost on what to do with these feelings.
I know we'll move cities probably travel the world for work get separated by life. But I still can't shake this feeling. I'm planning to tell her everything soon and say I get how she sees us. But I just can't figure out why I can't get her out of my head. Pls help internet strangers
Last updated on:2025-06-03T16:33:04+05:30
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Your connection with her is real but just because something is special doesn’t mean it’s meant to be romantic. Sometimes the deepest bonds are meant to remain as friendships.
You deserve someone who sees you the way you see them without hesitation without doubt with the kind of love that doesn’t leave you questioning your worth.
I’ve clung to someone who didn’t love me back hoping they’d change. But feelings aren’t forced nthey either exist or they don’t. The sooner you accept that the sooner you find clarity.
You will love again. And the next time it will be with someone who doesn’t make you feel unsure someone who doesn’t hesitate someone who meets your feelings with the same depth you give. Hold onto that hope.
It’s easy to convince yourself that the right person is standing in front of you even if they don’t feel the same. But the right person will never leave you doubting.
The heart wants what it wants but sometimes it chases what’s unavailable. You won’t move on overnight but slowly you’ll begin to see that loving someone from afar can be just as meaningful.
The connection the deep conversations the way they make you a better person I get it. But love isn’t just about how much you feel it’s about whether it’s reciprocated. And if it’s not letting go is the only way to truly heal.
I’ve been in that exact place falling for someone who didn’t see me the same way. It’s agonizing but holding onto something that isn’t meant to be won’t bring peace. Accepting the reality hurts but in time it will free you.