he dumped me after 5 months

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he dumped me after 5 months, said he couldn't meet my needs. Like 3-4 days later he's back with this super deep letter talking about childhood trauma bad mental health but how he loves me so much couldn't imagine life without me. He said he'd get help wanted to be better for us cuz I deserve it. Ended with you and me 2025.
Fast forward 5 months to last Friday he comes over. Says his mental health is crashing wants to end it cuz I deserve better than what he can give. We texted a bit but same reply every time. But he kept saying he loves me always will. I'm SO confused and heartbroken. If you really love someone wouldn't you want them when you're at your lowest? I told him I'd be there for everything.
He's super dismissive avoidant and we both know it. I'm SO disappointed he ran this time instead of breaking the cycle. And I'm so sad I wasn't 'the one' for him. But the worst part? I know if he comes back I'd take him back instantly

Last updated on:2025-06-05T09:10:24+05:30

Comments (10)

KeepitSaral
KeepitSaral 9 mths ago

Hey may be your partner needs time to figure himself out , the more you get along with a person who is in such a journey more heart break you get and you deserve better than that.dont let yourself be rolled over.Put yourself first this time

vichii213
vichii213 9 mths ago

I know you’d take him back and I know how much it hurts to still hold onto that hope. But ask yourself this do you want a love that leaves? Or do you want one that stays no matter what?

domio
domio 9 mths ago

You weren’t the problem. His struggles weren’t about you. And one day when you meet someone who won’t leave you doubting you’ll realize this wasn’t about your worth it was about his inability to love fully.

Swathope
Swathope 9 mths ago

I used to believe if I waited if I stayed patient if I proved my loyalty they’d finally be ready. But love isn’t about proving when someone truly chooses you they do it without hesitation.

rodalo52
rodalo52 9 mths ago

It’s painful to see someone battle their demons while refusing the help and love offered to them. I’ve learned that no matter how much love we give, healing has to be their choice not ours.

susain
susain 9 mths ago

I know that ache that longing to be the one for someone who keeps running. But the right person won’t make you question if you’re enough they’ll fight to stay even when life is hard

NIcolasVI
NIcolasVI 9 mths ago

You gave him your patience your support your understanding. But love isn’t about proving yourself if he wasn’t ready to meet you in that place that’s his struggle not yours.

brokenidoit
brokenidoit 9 mths ago

I’ve had someone tell me I deserved better right before they walked away. At first I thought it meant they truly cared but eventually I realized love shouldn’t be about pushing someone away it should be about fighting to stay.

paleboat
paleboat 9 mths ago

When someone loves you they don’t just say it they show up they fight through the hard times they choose you even in their struggle. I know it’s hard but sometimes love isn’t enough if they refuse to heal for real.

Simplysim
Simplysim 9 mths ago

Don’t do that