My ex called me a few days ago said she cheated on me last month. Some dude DMed her on Insta asked for drinks. She went they got flirty ended up kissing. Then linked up a few more times had sex three separate times at her place and his. Can't stop thinking about all the choices she made just to betray me for her own selfish desires. Replying to his DMs getting ready driving to his place turning off her phone having sex then calling me like nothing happened.
What's so messed up is we had the best healthiest relationship ever. We had a trip to NY planned next week then concerts then moving in together. We were long distance for two and a half years lived across the country but visited all the time at least every two months. We were about to close the distance. Her friends and fam loved me. We talked about our future so much.
Her reason was she stopped being attracted to me three months in. We were together two and a half years. Makes sense now thinking back how she tried to explain her low libido but I kept checking in she never said it was a big deal. It was more my issue but our relationship was so good otherwise I was cool with it. It was all fake just a bunch of lies.
We were perfect together. Same humor same hobbies. I'm a doctor ready to give her a fun loving life. Always getting her gifts making playlists planning dates putting in my 100%. Her friends always said they wanted a relationship like ours.
When she told me I had a huge meltdown. My world just crashed. Immediately blocked her number and Insta. Told her I'd never talk to her again. Sent a follow up message later when I was calmer about her choices and her character. Then told all her friends and family who became my friends and family the truth. What bugs me so much is almost no one responded or they defended her. Only her brother said it was messed up and apologized for her.
My ex never apologized. I heard she's in Paris chilling with friends having the time of her life parties eating out dance classes movies. I unblocked for a sec to check and her Insta stories look so happy. Like NOTHING happened. Like I was NOTHING to her. A couple weeks ago she was hyped to write her vows to me. How can I ever trust again? How can I ever love again? No warning signs. No red flags. Ultimate betrayal. Is she really that happy? Can she be that heartless no empathy or humanity? How can she be having so much fun after doing something so evil to me. Please I need some guidance.
Last updated on:2025-07-04T17:29:32+05:30
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Her loss...
Hey I am really overwhelmed after reading your post.Falling out of love specially in a long distance relationship is something that proves to be really difficult for the other person.I am so sorry for your Loss and it does get better than this but right now is a test for you If you can get through this I promise a different and bigger prespective to life is waiting where nothing will ever hurt or over whelm you but rn stay strong and go no contact if possible with anyone who reminds you of her
I know the pain feels endless but hold on. You will heal you will find love again and you will trust again. The right person won’t make you question your worth they will cherish it.
She may seem happy now but regret catches up. And even if it doesn’t that’s not your concern anymore. You deserve to build a life where she is nothing but a distant memory.
Blocking her was the best thing you could have done. No good comes from watching someone live their life while you suffer. Focus on your own healing because one day you will be the one genuinely happy.
Trust feels impossible after betrayal like this. But trust isn’t about them it’s about learning to believe again that there are people who won’t hurt you like this. And one day you will meet someone who proves that love can be safe.
You did everything right. You loved you planned a future you showed up. If she couldn’t appreciate that then she never truly deserved you. Right now it feels unbearable but this heartbreak will not last forever.
It’s brutal when you give someone your world only for them to throw it away. I’ve asked myself the same questions how can they move on so easily? But maybe it’s not that they don’t feel anything maybe they’re just avoiding the guilt in their own way.
The betrayal cuts deep. The worst part is knowing every step they took to cheat every choice they made along the way. But those choices reflect them not you. You didn’t deserve this and you are not defined by their actions.
I staring at my phone looking at their happy posts wondering how they could just move on like nothing happened. But over time I realized that social media isn’t real life. People post what they want others to see—not what they truly feel.