I had a bestie I caught feels for. Confessed and we started dating. We were young so things were messy. Like two immature kids we broke up.
Our thing was wild not your typical puppy love. It wasn't just immaturity. There was gaslighting we never met irl no calls no real talks. It was basically besties sending memes.
But we'd say I love you and compliment each other. He put me onto this series I've held onto for years. He was always busy with games and anime which made me overthink. Plus he had a bunch of girl besties and those girls didn't help. They'd straight up tell me he was cheating with them and didn't love me.
I couldn't tell him cos I was scared. But everything made sense he put in zero effort to talk didn't introduce me to his mom his family didn't know about me. He gave me the bare minimum and wouldn't change.
We broke up after 1.5 years and I blocked him I was so hurt. I'd watch that series he recommended cos it reminded me of him. The characters were kinda us the girl cared for the guy and he didn't care back.
Fast forward 1 year no contact still hurt. But I hit him up asked if we could be friends again he said yes. Then he started sending songs with vibes. I tried not to assume anything just ignored it.
I chose to be friends cos why not. After a year of being friends we laughed about our past but I still had grudges. Wanted them gone so I brought up my old worries about those girl besties.
He apologized told me not to believe them even sent screenshots to prove he was innocent. I felt bad for not telling him sooner. He got mad at those girls who messed with us and apologized for everything he did.
My heart softened a bit felt a weight lifted. He admitted he messed up said we had no communication. I felt myself healing after that started to fully move on.
We were besties again he started liking this girl. I didn't think much of it cos I was already dating someone after our deep convo. I wanted him happy I was happy for him.
Months later his new gf and him had problems. He came to me for advice said I was someone he looked up to.
We were on a call and he was crying about how much he loved her. Everything was chill until he said I know I treated you terribly and you didn't deserve that. But I will do the things I didn't do to you to my girlfriend. She deserves so much more. I will repay her so much for all of her efforts and patience. Then he kept going on about how much she was worth and described her.
That shattered my heart into a million pieces. Those were the words I wanted to hear when we were together. But he was talking about someone else. He treated me bad then he's out here treating another woman better. His family knows about her he spams her with I love yous and calls her things we never did.
I cried for nights ghosted everyone deleted my social media. But after a few months disappearing I recovered. Realized I had no control over it.
Last updated on:2025-06-05T16:16:35+05:30
Comments (8)
You are worthy of a love that doesn’t come with conditions lessons or regrets. And when that love finds you you’ll finally understand why settling for less never made sense.
His ability to express love now doesn’t change the fact that he should have treated you better when you were together. Let that be your closure you deserved more and one day you’ll receive it.
What’s meant for you will never make you feel like you weren’t enough. The right person won’t treat you as a stepping stone they’ll cherish you fully in the present not just as a lesson for their future.
The love you deserved then shouldn’t have been an afterthought. It should have been given wholeheartedly without hesitation. And one day you’ll find someone who gives that love effortlessly.
It hurts to know someone is giving their best to another person when they gave you the bare minimum. But that’s a reflection of his choices his journey not of your worth.
You went through the depths of heartbreak and yet you still managed to rise from it. That alone shows your strength. You are not defined by the way he failed to love you.
Seeing someone evolve for someone else makes it feel like we were just a stepping stone. But the truth is, his ability to love better now doesn’t mean you were the issue. It just means he wasn’t ready when you needed him to be.
hearing them say all the things you longed for but not to you. It’s brutal. But remember his growth doesn’t erase the way he treated you. You deserved that love first and the fact that he didn’t give it then wasn’t your fault.