so last year I caught my fiance doing spicy roleplay on Snapchat with other dudes. She said sorry it wasn't cheating whatever. Tonight she sends me nudes which is super rare for her. So I checked her phone where she thought she deleted stuff and found them backed up on Discord. I opened that and saw the nudes she just sent me also sent to some other guy. She was talking all spicy and saying I'm not a good dad.
Idk how I'm not a good dad. I got 2 kids with her (unmarried) and 2 with my ex. I work 6-7 days a week putting food on the table. I come home and help with the kids. All she does is chill on her phone or PlayStation and yell at the kids if they're bothering her.
Her family's driven me crazy gaslit me so much I had a few freakout moments where I mentioned self-harm. They're using those videos to blackmail me if I do anything against my fiance. They've also threatened my life cause her sister manipulates everyone against me making up stories and lies. She vents every fight to her sister so my fiance can do no wrong I'm always the bad guy. There's always a reason to blame me.
I love her. I don't think she's physically cheated. I'd forgive her for the pics and stuff but idk how to even deal with this or make it stop.
I'd literally lose my job and everything cause I got no one to watch my kids or help if we split. And she'd take the two we have with her up to her family and I'd never see them again.
Last updated on:2025-06-06T22:31:55+05:30
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I am really sorry to hear this but it seems like your partner is not being faithful to you.At the same time your responsibilities are making you ignore them so as to save the family you have.While it's commendable tha effort that you are putting for your family and kids but it's difficult to keep going unless it's the same from your wife as well.Since you two are together in this
this is cheating im sorry man
This pain won’t last forever even though it feels unbearable now. Whatever happens next remember that your value isn’t tied to someone else’s ability to appreciate you. You are already enough.
You are a good dad. Full stop. The fact that you work provide and show up for your kids proves it. Don’t let someone’s words shake what you know is true in your heart.
Sometimes love makes us blind to disrespect. I ignored warning signs too thinking things would change. But real relationships don’t require begging for loyalty or respect they give it freely.
People who love you don’t make you question your worth and they definitely don’t talk about you behind your back or belittle you. It hurts to admit but love shouldn't make you feel like you're drowning.
I get it the fear of losing your kids your stability. But staying in a situation that’s breaking you down isn’t healthy either. If you do decide to leave start planning for your future step by step small careful moves toward safety and security.
No one should be weaponizing your vulnerabilities against you and threats like that are beyond toxic. If you need support please reach out to someone safe whether it’s a trusted friend therapist or legal advice. You are not alone in this.
Holding onto someone who doesn’t respect you will only drain you further. I remember the exhaustion the way it felt like I was drowning while they got to live carefree. You deserve peace even if it feels impossible to find right now.
Gaslighting will make you second guess yourself until you don’t even recognize your own reality. But the truth? You are a hardworking devoted parent who has done everything you can. That’s not something to question it’s something to be proud of.
I’ve been blamed for everything in my past relationships too. When someone refuses to take accountability no amount of love will fix it. You deserve to be seen and appreciated for all the effort you put in.
I'm so sorry to hear that truly. Sending you well wishes man...