how can i stop looking at there social media, i think he has a new girlfriend, it's makes me feel so silly and stupid and dumb and al the others things.. he has blocked except from whatsapp but i can look through another account and he post a lot since the break up.. who has any tips, it's 4 months ago and it's drives me crazy
Last updated on:2025-06-09T22:02:00+05:30
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thank you all, i tried so hard !!
It’s normal to feel silly for still caring but you’re not dumb. You’re human. Give yourself grace but also give yourself boundaries. Healing is hard enough don’t make it harder by keeping yourself in the loop.
I had to train myself to stop reaching for my phone to stop typing in their name. I reminded myself every time They are not my future anymore. It didn’t work overnight but eventually it stopped being a habit.
I get it the urge to check is overwhelming, and sometimes it feels like the only way to get answers. But what helped me was asking myself Would knowing this make me feel better? And the answer was always no.
I told myself social media stalking was harmless until I realized how much it was ruining my mood my selfesteem my healing. Giving it up felt impossible at first, but weeks later I barely even thought about it anymore.
Distraction. Every time when you want to check did something for yourself instead—went for a walk messaged a friend watched something comforting. Slowly your mind rewired itself.
The more I checked their socials the more I convinced myself I was missing something. But the truth is their life wasn’t my business anymore. It wasn’t easy but once I stopped watchin I finally started feeling lighter.
I used to think knowing what they were up to would help me heal but all it did was keep me stuck in the past. The best thing I did was delete the fake accounts mute their name everywhere and force myself to focus on me.
thank you!
Been there. What helped me was unfollowing on the backup account too. Out of sight, out of spiral. You’re not silly,just hurt.