I have a 3 years Expartner and he abandoned me and my baby . 3 weeks ago he picked up his 2 daughter which are 19 and 20 and abandoned me and my daughter . I saw them last night in laundry area. I just said hi to his daughters. he is commanding me to invite them to my house and ask them how they are . In my mind, why do I force myself to be ok with them. he lied to me since I was pregnant and he didn't even think about what I felt . I don't want to force myself to be ok and happy in front of them where I am truly not . I also am starting to fell out of love to him. I am always starting the no contact rule but everytime I do, 2 to 3 days he will pop out and do something to communicate which I am already not happy
Last updated on:2025-06-10T13:57:59+05:30
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You’re already starting to fall out of love and that’s a sign of your strength. It’s not easy but every time you choose yourself over his attempts to pull you back in you’re moving closer to the peace you deserve.
It’s hard when they keep finding ways to communicate but remember you’re in control of how much access they have to you. Protect your energy even if it means being firm with your boundaries.
I used to feel guilty for not being okay around people connected to my ex but then I realized: my healing is my priority. You don’t have to force yourself to be happy for anyone else’s comfort.
You’re not obligated to make peace with people who were part of your pain. Healing doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine it means honoring your feelings and setting boundaries where you need them.
I know how hard it is to fall out of love with someone who hurt you especially when they keep showing up. But falling out of love is a process and every day you’re getting closer to freedom. Trust that.
trying to start no contact only for them to pop back in and disrupt my progress. It’s frustrating but every time you resist engaging you’re taking back your power. Keep going you’re stronger than you think.
I know how exhausting it is when they keep breaking no contact. It’s like they don’t want you to move on but they also don’t want to take responsibility. Stay strong every time you hold your boundary you’re choosing yourself.
You don’t have to invite them over or pretend to be happy. You’ve already been through so much and it’s okay to prioritize your own healing. You’re not responsible for making anyone else feel comfortable.
I’ve been in your shoes trying to force myself to be okay for the sake of others. But you don’t owe anyone that. You’re allowed to feel what you feel and you’re allowed to protect your peace. If you’re not ready to engage that’s okay.
sorry you are going through this. if you dont want to do things that you are not feeling say NO. the only thing thing you need right now is to learn to say no to him. . if that is difficult you still need to do it. if his reaction to your NO is what you want to avoid you still need to say no. it is tough but u gotta do.