it's been 32 days and I have a much clearer view on the relationship thank goodness. I realise all the manipulation he did and some were so obvious and I just never realised because I thought he was just genuinely feeling a certain way. now I'm looking back thinking he probably thought I was stupid and I also feel stupid for falling for it because I was genuine and cared. I didn't think anyone would do harm to another person like he did. I know I would never do anything like that and I was clearly naive as a result. I don't want to feel stupid because a was genuine what should I do?
Last updated on:2025-06-14T10:00:04+05:30
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I felt so dumb after seeing all the red flags I ignored. But you know what? I was operatin from love not manipultion. That doesn’t make me weak. That makes me someone who tried.
Hey it seems like you have realised that though it was really close to you but it didn't treat you with respect and dignity.This is your hint, Moving on is essential now.Start with No Contact, be involved in a journey to yourself
I remember crying on my bathroom floor when it hit me how much he manipulated me. I felt like a clown. But fr your kindness isn’t stupidity. It's just heartbreaking when it’s given to the wrong person.
I used to beat myself up for faling for someone who clearly didn’t value me.
I felt the exact same when I finally realized he was lowkey gaslighting me for months. I kept blaming myself for not catching it sooner but honestly Being genuine isn’t stupid it’s brave. I’d rather be soft and honest than manipulative like him.
Girl I wrote poetry about a man who couldn’t even text me back. I was down bad. But just cause someone took advantage of your heart doesn’t mean you were dumb. It means you were real.
hi it's completely understandable to feel foolish when you realize the extent of manipulation you experienced but not a weakness. Your compassion was used against you nd that's a reflection of his character not yours. Focus on your healing and trusting your clearer perspective you're strong for seeing the truth now.
been there too... around the one month mark things started clicking for me as well. like you, i looked back and realised how much manipulation i missed because i was coming from a place of care and honesty. it stings thinking maybe they saw us as naive or easy to fool, but truth is, being genuine isn’t stupi..it’s brave. what helped me was reminding myself that someone else's cruelty doesn’t make my kindness a weakness. you showed up with heart, and that says everything about you, not them. you’re not alone in this, and you’re definitely not stupid for loving real.