Trying no contact and I feel a need to reach out...He also manipulates me to talk to him using the words 'Your keeping me away from my children'. How do I deal with this?
Last updated on:2025-06-17T05:21:02+05:30
Trying no contact and I feel a need to reach out
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Hi That sounds incredibly challenging. It’s important to set boundaries and not let guilt dictate your actions. If he’s genuinely concerned about the children there are ways to addres that without breaking no contact.
I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you. Manipulation like that is designed to make you feel guilty but you’re not responsible for his relationship with the children.
That’s such a tough situatio to be in. It’s important to remind yourself why you’re trying no contact in the first place. If he’s using guilt to manipulate you try to stay firm and focs on what’s best for you and the children. You deserve peace.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this it sounds incredibly difficult. Remember manipulation is a tactic to make you feel guilty and break no contact.
So you recognize his manipulation. now you just need to accept being a bad person in his eyes...if he wants to blame you ...in general stipulate dedicated time for him with the kids and keep away during that time... better you go out or have his timing with kids out of the house and have him drop them back..ive been through this ... he cant keep using kids as a leverage to keep a control over you.
if that happens you can say, 'I’m available to discuss parenting matters only. I’m not open to personal conversations right now.' Then stick to it. don’t justify or explain further. If he talks about anything else or draws in an emotional angle while talking about kids withdraw... dont respond. dont explain. its easy to say this but it can be done if you put your mind to it.
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