He broke up with me on Friday and yesterday he came over to pick up his stuff. We were together for about nine months and I've never loved someone so intensely in my whole life I really thought he was the One. He ended it very abruptly. Yesterday when he came over he had this very strange attitude kind of aggressive but also in a good mood. I honestly couldn't even recognize the man sitting in front of me even his face and his eyes looked different I don't know I can't explain it. He started gaslighting me saying the reason we didn't work was because I couldn't respect his needs and boundaries for space which is not true we had been seeing each other once a week and we live five minutes apart. He never once tried to meet my needs. He gaslit me and then looked me dead in the eyes and said but despite all of that I still love you. And then he said if you ever just want to talk grab coffee or have any boyfriend issues I'm here for you. WTFFFFF? That is the most absurd thing. He obviously is extremely dismissive avoidant but I'm also thinking he might have some type of personality disorder (I know he struggles a lot mentally). I'm just in shock but I also feel some sense of relief because like what the f*ck was that.
Last updated on:2025-06-18T17:22:02+05:30
Comments (7)
It’s so frustrating when someone tries to rewrite the narrative like that. You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to feel hurt and confused.
I can’t imagine how shocking that must have been. It’s good that you’re seeing his behavior for what it is stay strong you deserve so much better.
Wow that’s a lot to process. It’s clear he has his own unresolved issues but none of this is your fault. You deserve someone who meets your needs not someone who dismisses them.
It sounds like he’s projecting his own issues onto you and you deserve so much better than this kind of treatment.
That’s such a manipulative thing to say and do. I’m glad you’re seeing through it you deserve someone who truly respects and supports you.
That must have been so confusing and hurtful. It’s good that you’re recognizing the gaslighting and standing firm in your truth you deserve someone who values and respects you.
Good thing you're not with him anymore. You deserve someone better someone who will actually love you more than you love them. Take things slow and just move on little by little. Always room for improvements