The day before she dumped me I had just finished an extremely stressful exam having slept only three hours and crammed six chapters into one night leaving me completely exhausted it was my last exam before the second round in two weeks. As soon as I got home I collapsed onto my bed and my phone started blowing up with her calls (she had my iMessage localization). When I answered she immediately began yeling at me asking why I hadn't called her when I got home since we were in a long-distance relationship. I explained tht I was exhausted and had simply forgotten. I honestly can't even remember the insults she threw at me I just stayed silent asking her to stop and telling her that she’d been draining my energy for the past few days and I was seriously on the verge of a breakdown. I asked her why she had been so mean to me especially over such trivial things for the past three days. Then I asked if she had lost interest in the relationship. She paused and said I swear to God no. But if I had to dump you it would be at the end of the month. I was stunned and couldn’t say a word. She then burst out laughing and said she was just joking. She told me to go get some sleep because I looked visibly tired. I hung up and literally collapsed. A few hours later she called again acting like nothing had happend and told me she loved me. I said it back but I was still in shock.
The very next morning she called me and told me she was done with our relationship. I stayed calm and said Alright. But then she added that she never really loved me that what initially attracted her was the fact that I was physically attractive and a med student. She said she had been forcing herself to fall in love with me for the past six months. My voice started shaking I felt embarrassed unlovable used and betrayed. I tried everything to hold back my tears. I told her Last night I knew you weren’t joking about breaking up with me. After a few seconds of silence I added I hope you find someone you feel a stronger connection with. I truly wish you the best. Six hours later I blocked her on all social media. Seven days after the breakup she started blowing up my phone calling and texting from hidden and fake numbers leaving countless voicemails. I didn’t open or respond to any of them I ignored everythin because I was genuinely hurt. It’s been a month since we broke up. The question that’s been on my mind is how much of a loser did I look for not ending things when she made that joke? How weak did I seem? Did I come across as someone who was begging or chasing her by not walking away immediately?
Last updated on:2025-06-20T07:44:21+05:30
Comments (8)
You deserve someone who really loves you. You are worthy of that. Don't ever forget that.
you were trying to make things work with someone you cared about. The fact that you blocked her and chose to move forward shows your strength and self-respect.
You didn’t come across as begging or chasing her you were trying to process your emotions and the situation. It’s normal to hold on when you care but you showed strength by walking away and focusing on yourself.
It’s natural to question yourself after a breakup You cared deeply and that’s not a flaw. Walking away and blocking her shows you’re strong and ready to move forward.
It’s easy to second-guess yourself but you didn’t look like a loser. You were in a tough spot emotionally and mentally and you handled the breakup with maturity and kindness. That’s something to be proud of.
Hey You didn’t look like a loser u were trying to navigate a difficult situation while dealing with stress and exhaustion. You handled the breakup with maturity and blocking her shows your strength.
You’re not weak for staying you cared about her and it’s hard to walk away from someone you love. The fact that you blocked her and chose to focus on yourself shows your strength and self-respect.
No.. no none of this was on you, or makes you look bad. I’m truly sorry she did this to you.