I've been with this guy. We've been together a year made tons of good memories. We're from different religions and even though that wasn't an issue for me it was always a barrier for him and his family. He made it clear early on his family wouldn't let him marry me and his marriage was already arranged. Despite that I chose to stay bcause I genuinely love him.
We only ever talked on one app he never gave me his phone number and I don't know his email or if he even uses social media. I accepted this setup because I believed he loved me and wanted to support him. But whenever we fight he just disappears sometimes for days sometimes over a week. During those times I have no way to reach him. It's hard but I stayed thinking love was enough.
One time we had a huge fight and he ghosted me for over a week. I had no idea what to do. I even sent friends to his workplace to check on him but he still ignored me. During that time a coworker who'd shown interest before got my number and started texting me. I was upset and vulnerable and yea, I replied. But I made it super clear right away I was in love with someone else and wasn't interested in anything more. He got it and kept things respectful especially since we work together.
Then my boyfriend came back and told me he was getting married next month his family's choice. I was heartbroken. I always knew this could happen but hearing it confirmed just shattered me. Even then I still loved him.
At our last meeting as he was about to leave for his country for the arranged marriage he saw a message from that coworker. It was harmless but he got super mad. He opened the chat saw the convo and immediately judged me thinking I was just some cheater. I tried to explain the truth but he wouldn't listen. Now he sees me completely differently and it hurts deep cause I never meant to betray him.
I don't even know how to feel right now. I feel terrible like I failed him and myself. Maybe it was dumb to hold on so long knowing there was no future. But when you really love someone even the impossible feels worth the pain.
Last updated on:2025-06-20T19:30:04+05:30
Comments (7)
You’re not dumb for holding on you were following your heart and that’s never a bad thing. It’s so painful when love isn’t enough, but this doesn’t mean you failed.
Hey It’s not easy to let go of someone you love even when the odds are against you.
You didn’t fail you just loved someone who couldn’t give you the same in return. Sending you strength. 💕
It’s clear you gave so much of yourself to this relationship and it’s heartbreaking that it ended this way. Please don’t blame yourself you did what you thought was right out of love. You deserve someone who can fully commit to you without barriers.
Nah he sounds like a total idiot. He can't get mad at you for chilling with someone else when he's literally about to get married.
Because thankful it's over. His family will always run his life.
Nah fam he totally played you and treated you like trash and you still think it's your fault. That's straight up gaslighting.