Just discovered his mindset. Apparently, he thinks after all the manipulation and gaslighting, he will come and I'll accept him back. But thing is, he pushed me away to a point where I learnt how to exist without him. I broke no contact coz of our kids, and discovered that i had no energy left for him. He read this and suggested for us to go for couples therapy and i didn't get it because he left us for another woman, and he currently lives with her. Still don't get why this move but what i know is I'm no longer willing to give him any energy. He made it clear that he moved on and in the process he disrespected me and well i chose myself and our children. This is not from a point of bitterness, but from a point of protecting my peace. Have been going for therapy and i also discovered that i did forgive him however, forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting the lesson he taught me. I will go for that couples therapy if he plans for it, but i have also learnt that i also need to manage my expectations to stop him from manipulating and gaslighting me.
Last updated on:2025-06-24T06:26:02+05:30
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It’s incredible how you’ve grown through this experiene. You’re setting boundaries and focusing on what’s best for you and your children that’s truly admirable.
Your strength shines through in your words. 😍
u handling this situation with so much grace and wisdom👍
your ability to forgive while still holding onto the lessons you’ve learned is so powerful.
You’ve come so far in your journey and it’s clear that you’re making choices that honor your well-being and your children’s.
It’s amazing how you’ve prioritized your healing and peace. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting and you’re showing so much wisdom in managing your expectations.
Your strength and clarity are truly inspiring. Choosing yourself and your children while protecting your peace is such a powerful decision.
it’s powerful that you can see through his moves now. Protecting your peace isn’t bitterness, it’s strength. keep it going. more strength to you.
The audacity of him, living with someone else and still expecting you to fix what he broke. You choosing peace is the way to go. 🙌❤️🤗
that does sound so painful. if he is living with this other woman, why is he suggesting couples therapy? u are doing the right thing. your energy is for urself and ur kids and ur peace.tc