My friend of over eight years is going through it and I'm her only vent. I try to be there hyping her up and giving tough love about moving on from this dude she can't stop thinking about. We hang out a lot and go on adventures but it's always the same conversation and I feel like something just isn't clicking for her. Basically she met this guy they dated for a while and he was even involved in her kids lives. Things were good and they decided to move to a different state together got a house but just a few months later he cheated. She found out and kicked him out. Now six months later she's still ranting about all his broken promises constantly comparing herself to the girl he cheated with and obsessed with how easily he moved on to the pretty girls in town. Before I told her to block his number and delete their photos she'd reach out to him holding onto this glimmer of hope that he'd come to his senses. Instead he'd play the victim and twist the blame back on her. Sometimes he'd even call claiming he was getting help and doing better which would trigger her leading to arguments about his new girlfriends. She still feels this way even after blocking him. They're both toxic for each other he keeps baiting her and she keeps trying to fix him it's a repetitive cycle. Now she just struggles to keep her mind off everything that happened. In her words I don't know him anymore it's uncomfortable sad and I don't know how to move on past it this wasn't supposed to happen. She also says I never thought he'd turn on me like this or treat me like this and I fought for him and stuck with him just to be so heartbroken helpless I don't know what to do. I just want my friend to be happy again. Any words of encouragement or advice would be a huge help.
Last updated on:2025-06-26T08:56:13+05:30
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Grieving is a cold piece my friend! n your friends has to grieve. the fact u being there shows your true heart and want what's best. it's tough when the ppl we love don't see what we see. but as her friend and as a mf who went thru that grief is not only fir the dead or losing someone. she's grieving a whole life she planned they up n moved to a whole gotta state. irs a cliche but time do heal all wounds. like I'm 3 yrs in and I'm literally literally truly finding some peace in my broken heart n we had a blended family .8.5 yrs. she as to see her worth. when the pain is great enough she will see what she needs to see. I'll b praying for you friend. u just keep loving her where she at. sometimes when we in that State we don't wanna hear girl just move on girl he ain't nun girl why u still crying sometimes all we can do is be there n keep encouraging her the individual that she stronger than she kniw that she's beautiful. that if a man or woman can cheat n leave n b with another so quickly n deflect the pain back on to them then they not even really worth it to be in her life. she's so much more than this. n I hope she truly knows how much she's worth. your a great friend n I have no doubt she gone make it through this and you give b right there like girl u member when u was pressed bout ol boy now look at chu glowing up n ish. hope u found sum I said to b useful. I'm just a human name Felicia navigating thru life. n ut can b a mf but it's all about how we get up n perserve....love ya My friend
Sometimes people need time to truly let go but your encouragement and adventures are helping her more than you realize.
It’s tough to see someone hold onto hope for someone who doesn’t deserve them but your tough love and encouragement will help her see her worth eventually.
It sounds like she’s really stuck in a cycle of pain but you’re doing the right thing by encouraging her to move forward.
You’re an amazing friend for being there for her through all of this. It’s so hard to watch someone you care about struggle but your support means the world to her. Keep reminding her that she deserves so much better and that healing takes time.