Why is moving on so hard ??? It's been 27 day of trying and asking him to come back.....🫠I try everything but he was such a big part of my life that it hurts so badly 💔 I cry every night hoping he would say he sorry and let's fix this but that's just in my head🧎I call him yesterday just to talk again for the million times and cried because he was so cold towards me 😔 that I decided to delete his number and every trase of him 💔 but it really hurting me 😖 I don't even feel like me anymoreðŸ˜ðŸ’”
Last updated on:2025-07-03T18:33:22+05:30
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girl you should have not call him at the beginning. if you want him to comeback, you should stay quiet because that is your only powerful weapon to make him miss you and want you to comeback. calling and texting only makes him distant from you bc he feels annoying than feel the love you give him. i understand that this is tough but you have to stay quiet, healing, keep yourself busy so you won't miss him.
really hope your doing better today
It’s okay to cry and feel everything you’re feeling. Healing isn’t linear and it’s okay to take small steps.
I know it feels unbearable right now but you’re stronger than you realize. Deleting his number was a step toward putting yourself first and that’s so important. You’ll find your peace again.
Letting go is so hard especialy when your heart still wants to hold on. But you’re taking steps to heal and that’s something to be proud of.
I know it hurts so much right now but deleting his number was a brave step toward healing. You deserve someone who values you and your love.
It’s so painful to let go of someone who was such a big part of your life. You’re doing the best you can and that’s enough.
I been there babyyyy. it's gone get better. n depending on how long and how much you've invested trust me darling 27 days ain't gone make it go away no faster. I'm at 3 yrs from my separation but truly 3 months of truly stopping the back in forth texting n talking here n there. n I'm just getting some healing but I've been mentally n emotionally preparing for this for quite some time so everyone is different in there healing and grieving process. so why moving on is so hard in my eyes. we've planned futures we planned trips we planned a life with someone we are laughing talking doing life together and then it stops. our mind body emotions gravitate towards them n when it stops it's like wait hold up what's happening we need them we want them we wanna feel that touch there kiss there body
we wanna her tht life. it's like drugs and alcohol I craved it for years was my best fucking friend my master my god . n when I stopped 2.5. yrs ago my body was like wait wit we aid we heartbroken we need. drink we need to get high caise it's what I knew. to put it in a visual it's the same as love to me. I've put it in my body for so long 30 days 90 days wasn't enough to make me not think about it and want it. but truly the process is real. n getting thru it ain't easy by all means. I'm sorry your in the beginning phase and your wide open . but if you gotta beg somebody to be with you that just mean they not for you. real love you ain't never gotta plead for that shit cause if it loves you it's gone show you. it's time to rediscover you. n I know trust me that's not what u wanna hear. but it will get to that point. right now feel,cry..yell.scream listening to the songs you need to .cry.cry.cry. it's healing in them tears idc what NO ONE SAY. them tears gone strength you. . but we all been there. n just speaking for me. baby I use to cry daily over mine. I use to think there was no life after her for me. I thought I was just gone die and never live laugh again. I'm still single by choice. becaise loving me today rediscovering who Felicia is has opened my eyes to my Worth. n I'm worth something today. I'm somebody today and if a person don't want nun to do wit me. then I gotta cut em loose. no need n tryna chain up a dog when they just gone keep bitting thru the leash and run away. the energy ain't worth it. love you more. if He come back and yall work it out koo. it was meant if he don't.. let it go. we worth more than that today your important. your feelings and every word you uttered is valid know that. but becaise I been where you been truly... I also know I NEVER SAW ME WHERE IM AT TODAY! THERE IS LIFE AFTER HEARTBREAK THERE IS LIFE AFTER THE PAIN. IDK HOW OLD YOU ARE BUT BETTTY WRIGHT SINGS IT BEST AFTER THE RAIN........NO PAIN NO GAIN.... I MEAN SHE FORSAW I WAS GONNA GL THEY SOME SHIT.LOL. BUT IM PRAYING FOR YOUR CONFOET , WARM HUGE TIGHT HUGS YOUR WAY. PEACEFUL THOUGHTS TO COME. SMILES TO COME . BUT WE GOTTA GO THRU THE PAIN OF REJECTION TO B ABLE TO APPRECIATE THE ART OF ACCEPTANCE. MOVING ON ISNT THE GOAL. LEARNING TO LIVE WITHOUT THEM IS THE GOAL. ATLEAST FOR ME. I THINK IM GONNA LOVE ASHLEY TILL THE DAY I DIE. I TRULY IN MY HEART WISH WE COULD B FRIENDS CAISE SHE A GREAT PERSON BUT WE JUST WERENT MEANT FOR NO RELATIONSHIP BUT SINCE WE WENT 8.5 YRS IT STINGS A BIT YA KNOW. BUT I CANT B FRIENDS WOTH SOMEONE I LOVE IN THE CAPACITY IN HOW I LOVE HER. SO YOULL GET THERE. DONT RUSH IT. DONT WISH THE FEELINGS AWAY DONT IGNORE THEM TALK TO PPL. KEEP COMONG ON HERE TELLING YA TRUTH GET FEEDBACK FROM PPL WHOVE OVERCAME AND OVERCOMING AND HEALING AND GRWOING AND THE LIGHT IS SHINNING. FINALLY. THESE PPL HAVE HELPED ME THRU MY PAIN AND STILL HELPING ME I LOVE THIS PLATFORM USE US. USE ME. IM HERE YA WANNA CHAT N CRY N YELL N SCREAM. SOMEBODY DID IT FOR ME. I TEXTED MY FRIEMDS FOR A WHOLE FEW MONTHS CAISE I WANTED TO TEXT MY EX. N I JJST SENT THEM EVERYTHING I WANTED TO SAY TO HER. I GOT 1.5 JOURMALS OF JUST STUFF I WANNA TELL MY EX OR WHEN I THINKNOF HER. TO KEEP ME FROM CALLING N TEXTING HER DORECRLY. THERES SOMETHINGS WE GOTTA DO IN THIS PROCESS. BUT RIGHT JOW JUST TAKE IT IN. DO WHAT U GOTTA DO. WHEN THE PAIN GET GREAT YOULL STOP BEGGING N PLEADING HIM. TRUST ME. N DONT FEEL EMBARRASSED OR ASHAMED I DID BEFORE . JUAT APART OF MY STORY. N MF WOULD NOT ANSWER. AFTER A WHIKE I STOPPED CALLING. THEN SHE STARTED CALLING N THE CYCLE KEPT GOING TILL GOD GAVE ME THE STRENGTH N ANSWERED THE PRAYERS I BEEN PRAYING FOR YEARA LITERALLY YEARS TO JUST WALK AWAY N I HAD TO FOR MY OWN PEACE OF MIND. NO ONE GETS TO TAKE AWAY MY PEACE TODAY UNLESS I KET THEM. N I HOLD IT DEAR TO MY HEART. IVE WORKED TO HARD FOR THIS PEACE AND JOY I HAVE. SO I LOVE YA TAKE CAREM REACH OUT IF YOU NEED TO. KEEP COMING BK ON THIS THING. SOME AMAZING PPL WHO ARE TRULY HEALING. THRU THIS
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Moving on is one of the hardest things to do especially when someone meant so much to you. Be gentle with yourself it’s okay to take it one day at a time.
I ask him if I could see him just so that we can talk about thing fix thing but he said ( No I don't wanna see you....) even tho I was crying and begging he said (No I don't wanna see you) hang up on me I called back just for him to say ( The world is not coming to a end so stop crying and leave me alone)
if you got to know please do let us know too.. this pain is very very disturbing..
sounds like we are going through the same thing. 4 years. he's my only & best friend. he says we can be friends but after the past week I have realized thats not possible bc he says things that break my heart & he has no emotion towards me. I cry & it changes nothing. I break down & he feels nothing. Its devastating & I dont understand
I don't understand or know what more to do
@CozyVibe788 I am starting no contact today. I DO NOT WANT TO. but he flat out told me he does not want me or a relationship with me past friends. If my crying the past week has not changed anything its not going to change. I didn't block him because I can go to my block list to get his number. so 1 moment of weakness which will come soon will be all it takes. I deleted his number so I have absolutely no way of contacting him besides showing up. I still have his house key so i may throw that away to prevent that. id be lying if i didn't say i am hoping he will contact me after a few days. Thats about the only thing holding me together
@CozyVibe788 I do not know why that posted so many times. lol
@CozyVibe788 & there really is nothing more you/we can do. We have to accept it & move on. whoch even saying those words kills me
@Brokenspirit I start to day too because he said some really hurtful ( Why can you leave me alone)
(I don't have no more feelings for you💔)
(I have move on so why can't you) But it one 28 day we broke upðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
Two day before we broke up I ask him I'd he love me and he said yes so I don't know what happen🥹 I tried everything 🧎
@Brokenspirit I'm trying really hard😔
@CozyVibe788 I can kinda understand why he feels the way he does. we are headed in different directions in life. but we've known that & adjusted the past 4 years. I believe in fighting to fix things he doesn't. I know he loves me. we've cried together about us breaking up. which honestly makes it more confusing. your not supposed to give up on the people you love. right? yet he is.
@Brokenspirit SAME for me have different thing going on in your life and both have our own dreams and I could I left so much time but I didn't because I believe that thing going to get better and I loved him so much that I from everything around him but yet he left 💔🧎
Yoh I'm going through the same things...And I know I need to stop and leave him but it's hard to let go but I know one of these days the friendship is going to stop and his going to stop trying and start moving on. I'm also trying to move on but all I can think about is fixing our relationship