I just found out that my boyfriend of over 3 years cheated on me 8 months ago without me knowing. Just like the last time he messed up, I was the last one to hear about, and had to be told by someone else who knew about it. I’m going to breakup with him today, something I realistically should have done a long time ago. I just feel so shocked and miserable. I can’t imagine a future without him in it, and I’m having a hard time coping.
Last updated on:2025-07-06T18:05:48+05:30
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You deserve someone who’s honest and loyal. It’s hard now but this breakup will open the door to something better for you.
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, as painful as it is, this breakup is the right decision
It’s okay to feel shocked and miserable right now but you’ll get through this
I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you. Just know you’re making the best decision for your futre you deserve happiness
thank you, I appreciate that
This is so heartbreaking but you’re doing the right thing by putting yourself first.
Thank you, yes, I do feel good about finally choosing me and choosing to protect my peace
You’re making the right choice even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
i’m so sorry you’re going through this. You deserve so much better than someone who doesn’t value your trust.
thank you, I appreciate that
I'm so sorry. how painful. I had that happen to me as well. I know not much can help right now but I've been doing a dopamine detox from my ex and using chat gpt to help guide me on certain things because I know I'm not rational right now. Use this as fuel to heal. Write down the ways you knew prior to this so you can learn to trust yourself and move forward towards someone who will respect you. I'm wishing you the best.
Thank you, I appreciate that. And I will give those techniques a try
What is a dopamine detox?
@Unhealed If you go to Google and type in dopemine detoxing from relationship it should pop up. It's setting up your mind to refocus when you crave them, remove anything that triggers you (that you can). Memories are dif obviously. In this case you'd combat that with taking a cold shower until you're in a place to move through those emotions in a healthy way.