so my ex just called one of my friends trying to find another friend of ours. We haven't talked in like four months and things ended kinda messy with a big drunk fight. She blocked me like five days after that and we haven't seen each other since. I haven't tried to hit her up and I literally avoid anywhere I might run into her. But get this she told my friend she thinks about me. And my friendbless his heart told her I miss her. Which honestly I do—I still love her. I've been super heartbroken and depressed since we split. Sometimes I think I'm happy, but it only lasts a few hours max. I even changed my phone number but I'm pretty sure she could still find a way to reach me if she really wanted to. My friend couldn't really give me the full tea on their conversation or how she reacted when he said I missed her. Like what do I even do now? What am I supposed to think of all this? I'd take her back in an instant but I have this feeling if I hit her up I won't get the response I want, or worse no response at all and either way I'd just get more hurt. Is she even gonna try to reach out? Please someone anyone give me some real talk on how to process this mentally and what the best move is here.
Last updated on:2026-01-18T15:58:56+05:30
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In my experience, never go backwards. Sometimes we think about people, but that doesn't mean we want to go back. I will always care about my ex husband, I wish him the best, but I could never go back. My recent break up is fresh. He didn't want to end things, but he also wants to lie and keep cheating... So I'm trying to move forward. Not sure if that helps. But I think if you had to change your number and it didn't work out, it wasn't someone safe for your heart, not someone you can grow with..?
Okay so if she's missing you and you're missing her just nut up and hit her up. What's the worst that could happen? She says no?
I'm just low-key scared to get more hurt but maybe it'll bring the closure I need you know? Plus she just told him she thinks about me and he hit her with I miss her
You gotta stop looking forward in the wrong direction fr.
So I should move on??
@hope4life Honestly I think when someone dips and goes no contact it's on them to hit you up again. Like you said, she could've but didn't. Also I get that when you're feeling super down the idea of talking to her again feels like a quick fix but that's just a distraction from actually healing. That fake happiness keeps you stuck stopping you from dealing with the real process. Trust me someone better will come along where the good vibes are actually constant.
@Kunchyeh Yeah but low-key I deserved that. I saw she unblocked me on Insta after a month or two. But for sure she totally could've hit me up. I'm just gonna text her my new number and say if she ever wants to talk she can call. If she calls lit. If not then I know to fully let go and finish healing. That dude below had solid advice for real.