I am really confused

I am really confused. She reached out to me after 7 days when I was in complete no contact. She is now texting me continuously since yesterday which I virwed today once. Else it was unread. I am worried if it's the same old pattern when she disconnect and comes back(this 7bdays was the longest one) or should I respond to her. I am kind of waiting of she put her strong foot ahead to say why she left where were she and why she left me for 7 days and then only I shud respond. and that's the problem with her always she is not thoughtful that what cud have solve the arguments. everytime when I say then she start doing it. in a dilemma shud I respond or left her unread now till she accepts. Or if she get pissed that I am not responding and leave again. help me plz

Last updated on:2025-07-09T09:19:53+05:30

Comments (10)

WavyAndFree59
WavyAndFree59 8 mths ago

Hey all thanks for being so supportive.
She has been messaging me since yesterday but I just viewed them and not responded. She did say sorry that she should not have done that 7 days gap. But somehow looking into her past patterns I am/was looking for more words from her. But this morning she said" it seems you don't want to talk and that's what you wanted and would not force you " I wanted to ask you all am I doing right by keeping a distance and let her do hard work this time or me being mean and adamant?

minnimose
minnimose 8 mths ago

If she’s serious about fixing things she’ll make the effort to explain without you asking.

LoveGym
LoveGym 8 mths ago

You’re in the right to want clarity before respondng. If she’s srious she’ll stick around and make the effort. Don’t stress too much.

dieheart
dieheart 8 mths ago

You’re not wrong to want her to explain herself first. If she’s serious she’ll understand why you’re holding back.

rough254
rough254 8 mths ago

If she’s not addressing the real issues it might just be the same old pattern. Take your time to decide what feels right

born2shine
born2shine 8 mths ago

maybe wait and see if she takes responsibility for the 7 days. You don’t have to respond right away

Chocoman
Chocoman 8 mths ago

It’s okay to feel confused. Maybe give it some time and see if she explains herself without you having to ask.

WavyAndFree59
WavyAndFree59 8 mths ago

Yes that's the only thing I have and going to do. Because if I say a word she will pick it up and start saying those things. And it gives me an impression that she is not saying of her own. And this way i am able to stay on my no contact continue.

Yiami
Yiami 8 mths ago

I get why you’re hesitant. If she’s serious she’ll make the effort to explain herself

WavyAndFree59
WavyAndFree59 8 mths ago

Hmm i am. Waiting but this stage is more tough than no contact. Because you keep waiting if she will say something. This is pain!