this has been bothering me but my first and only boyfriend we only talked for two months and were only physically together for a week but it still messed me up. The way he treated me made me hate myself and now I feel like a shadow of who I used to be. Which sucks cause I feel like what he even liked about me my charm is totally gone so I know I can't give that to a new partner. It's been over a month how do I even get my spark and myself back?
Last updated on:2025-07-12T23:53:34+05:30
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I can relate to this so much. I'm so sorry 😞
You’re stronger than you think. It’s okay to feel lost but don’t forget that you’re still the same incredible person.
You’re not a shadow of who you used to be. You’re just healing and that takes time. Your charm and spark will come back when you’re ready
It’s hard but try to focus on self love and doing things that bring you joy. Your spark isn’t gone it’s just waiting for you to find it again.
Don’t let how he treated you define how you see yourself. You’re amazing and the right person will see that too.
You’re still you even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Healing takes time but you’ll rediscover your confidence and charm.
"and now i feel like a shadow of who i used to be". that's it, inn a positive way, find yourself back before him. It is time for you to back off and treat yourself by let it go. Absorb all the pain, and let it heal. To get your spark back, you need to find yourself and comfort yourself, go out and reconnect with your friends, have a walk in the park, take a deep breath in the beach. What's meant for you will find your, in a good way ofcourse. i was pushed away by the girl i thought was the one, we spent 1 year and 9 months together and just ended badly 10 days ago. What I'm sharing is how i absorb all the pain and let time heals. yk thruout thosw months me and my past spend time together such as cafe hopping, laughing and enjoying the time. BUt this time, it is tine for me to do it alone, do the usual activities we did, but alone. At some point, the pain stings, the presence, but i realized it was all just an attachment, not love. Love is when we learn to let go, and be ready for the future... Not just loving that person, but also to love yourself. Go out there, have a walk and treat yourself for some ice cream or idk make up and stuffs. IT does sting, but do not let it consume you, have faith dear stranger.
It’s okay to feel like this after what you went through. Be patient with yourself and focus on things that make you happy.
your charm and spark are still there you just need time to heal.