Hi, fellow sufferers. ❤️ Anyone else experiencing total obsession over the idea of your person coming back? I know it is sick, I know I have to focus on myself but for some reason I just can't... Day 11 after breakup, I supposed I would feel a bit better by now... True, I don't cry all day long already and my anxiety is getting better at least. But still, I can not accept the idea of my future not involving him. 💔 I have hobbies I had neglected in the relationship I would love to catch up with now but it feels impossible. I feel like a crazy person, like an addict – which I probably am. Time is passing by and I am totally unproductive. Instead, I am religiously watching and listening all the "get your ex back" and "how your ex feels" videos and podcasts all day long. It helps me to stay in no contact but it is due to my romantically unrealistic hopes of him showing up at my door with an apology, regretting that he had lost me. I can't help it, even though I am bit of a cynic by default and I feel shame for it. But I love way too deeply to accept the person who called me "his princess" just few days before and who I planned family with is just gone. His decision was quite abrupt and he probably has doubts but his pride and logic would not allow him to turn back. How to handle this when this hope is helping me survive but is killing me in the long run? 🥺
Last updated on:2025-07-15T10:11:37+05:30
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It's been 2 months for me. I went through the same thing. My doctor put me on anti-depressants and it really helped me with my anxiety. Before that, I wasn't eating or sleeping. Have you tried meditating?
Breakups feel like withdrawal sometimes but it will get better. Try to take small steps toward your hobbies
I totally get it. It’s hard to let go of the future you imagined but you deserve someone who chooses you wholeheartedly
It’s okay to feel this way. Healing isn’t linear you’re already making progress by not crying all day. Be kind to yourself
I’ve been there too it’s so hard. Just remember focusing on yourself will bring you peace in the long run.
You’re not crazy at all breakups are so tough it’s normal to feel this way. Take it one day at a time
i aint no longer accept if she comes back. SHE was a coward, for not expressing her feelings. If the grass was not greener on the other side, i will never accept her again. The person i fell for... is already dead. this version of her is just a shadow of someone i once fell in love with. I want a future where this type of problem is faced f2f, and not one side being a coward. No, for my future and for my sake, never ever accept those who wronged us
I feel you so much on this. It’s so hard to let go of that hope but you’re already doing amazing by staying in no contact