It's been 21 days of no contact with my ex

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It's been 21 days of no contact with my ex. He texted me this morning to tell me that his dog died last night. I did not respond. I did not even open the text for fear it would send him a read receipt. Then, later in the afternoon, he texted me again, this time to tell me I got mail at his house and to ask me if I needed it. I am sad about the dog, but I'm not breaking the no contact. Sorry if that makes me seem like a heartless Bitch, but he sure as hell didn't care when I was hurting after he broke up with me. The truth is that I want him to hurt as bad as he hurt me. But I did love the dog and I do feel bad.

Last updated on:2025-07-16T04:44:02+05:30

Comments (12)

Yenetmua
Yenetmua 8 mths ago

It’s tough to hear about the dog but you’re doing amazing by staying strong and not breaking no contact.

Vinoma
Vinoma 8 mths ago

You’re not heartless you’re just protecting your peace. Feeling bad about the dog is natural but you’re doing great

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 8 mths ago

I am on day 16. I am coming to grips with the fact the relationship is over - but I have hope still ( like a fucking idiot) - I don’t wish the dog to be dead cause he was mine but I can’t have him in a inpatient dual diagnosis program. However, I wish she had some emergency where she would call me! just to hear her voice. Day 16. I am trying but so many years and i am so alone. Even my kids won’t talk - not DV but what I did was terrible so I don’t blame them.

I wish there was a magic pill. thus Unhealed you need to stay the course but at the same time I say this - I wish I could her my former soulmate’s voice.

Unhealed
Unhealed 8 mths ago

I felt like that for the first 6 weeks, until my doctor put me on anti-depressants. Now I just feel anger toward him all the time.

MSZA03A
MSZA03A 8 mths ago

You’re allowed to feel sad about the dog and still keep your distance. Healing comes first.

Unhealed
Unhealed 8 mths ago

Thanks y'all!

PancakeSmash
PancakeSmash 8 mths ago

u can pray for the dog without directly breaking the no contact. If i were u, i will never break no contact. Just move forward, dont look back

Unhealed
Unhealed 8 mths ago

Thank you

Romina
Romina 8 mths ago

It’s okay to feel bad about the dog it doesn’t make you a bad person.

DreamBig335
DreamBig335 8 mths ago

if this is what you need then thus is what you need

Motionthing
Motionthing 8 mths ago

You’re doing the right thing by staying no contact. It’s tough but you’re prioritizing your healing

Kiilavio21
Kiilavio21 8 mths ago

You’re not heartless at all. It’s okay to feel sad about the dog but still stick to your boundaries.