currently I am having hard time letting go of my ex—actually we still have contact and this is because I am so afraid that I may lost myself if I lost her. I know we won't work she already has her new, but she keeps seeking for my presence too. Everyone help, idk what to do
Last updated on:2025-07-17T05:16:02+05:30
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It's wild how you’re holding the emotional weight for both of you while she’s moved on. You’re allowed to put yourself first now
Still being her safe space while she explores new paths... that’s a tough position to be in. Maybe it’s time to be your own safe space
Part of healing is recognizing the difference between presence and peace. Her reaching out might feel familiar but is it helping you breathe easier?
Keeping contact might feel safe but it sounds like you’re losing pieces of yourself each time. Maybe it's time to choose peace over proximity.
When someone new enters their life and they still pull you back it can really mess with your mind.
what to do really🥹
Sounds like you’ve been stuck between loyalty and self-preservation. That kind of emotional tug of war is exhausting you're not alone in it
Walk away. You deserve more than that. Be strong there are good people out there.
dude im gonna hurt u with reality. Are you seriously tolerating this? this is just straight up disrespectful towards yourself and humiliating. yes u will lose yourself if u lose her. Bu t NOT ALL OF YOU??? SHE ALREADY HAS A FREAKING NEW PERSON and yet still holding on to you? wtf is that, that's just straight up humiliating. MAN up bro. u deserve better than this. if she already did that to her new one, do u think she'll be loyal to you? brother hell no. wake up, YK WHAT UT DO, move forward and move on, dont hold it, you dont deserve that treatment. and you deserve better.
no there is no stupid reason like "oh i wanted this fish" "oh she did this to me when we" "oh but she love me". you call this love??? by being a second choice?? and waiting for her like a street dog?? u called that love?? you will lose yourself. This version of you, and it will be replaced with a better version of you and that new version will meet a person that matches you, that choose you, that dont second guess you. MOVE forward, WAKE UP. I dont see this as a happy marriage in the feature. do you??? if you did find this as a happy one, then im soryy... its pathetic. Sometimes you need to be harsh with the truth, sometimes you need to realize that this is just u walking towards hell. That is why u need to grow and realize that self respect is above all.
thank you for this painful words btw I'm a woman and it was a woman to woman rs. Yeah I know I'm being insane, do you mind telling what first thing to do rn
@FlexVibe96 cut all contact of dear sis. It will hurt like hell but it will heal, rather than u continue your current path it will eventually lead you to insanity. Have long text prepared for her about "in terms of my feelings and my heart, this is just straight up disrespectful for me and my future, and I can't see my self suffering like this in the future and now.... etc
@FlexVibe96 sorry sis i didnt know u were a woman
@FlexVibe96 u are responsible to protect yourself, you will be the type of person that will save and comfort your 8 years old self. You cant end and continue this story, idk the main reason of this, but with just your post, it's just not it yk, its just, whatever u do... it will not work if u stay. I need u to move forward with me. this is my day 13th of my fresh breakup whom i thought was the one. It hurts like hell, but i need to cut her off in all. not because im heartless, but its the reality. the more u hold on, the more insane and painful it will be
@FlexVibe96 sorry for using harsh words, i didn't know you're a woman 🙏
@PancakeSmash i appreciate it sometimes you need to be told "you're a fool" to realise that you are. Thank you so much, this means so much to me darling
@FlexVibe96 hehe you're welcome