To the men in this place, kindly help me understand him. I had to break no contact cause of our children. We needed to come to an understanding on how to co-parent. He hit me with this statement, 'I want my family back. The lady i left you for isn't giving me what i was looking for'. I asked him if he's manipulating me and he said no. He has not been having the best relationship with honesty so i didn't buy it. Yesterday night, he called me and his lady got pissed. The following morning, he tells me we shouldn't talk in the evenings and we should respect the lady. He then sent me this video https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMHgHXgf7wNwR-jRZHh/
I have checked out since i have no confidence or trust in him but i fail to understand his actions. I am quickly reaching a point where i don't care whether he'll be present in our children's lives.
Last updated on:2025-07-18T06:41:02+05:30
Comments (8)
You’re doing the right thing by focusing on co-parenting and not letting his mixed signals distract you
It sounds like he’s trying to have it both ways but you’re smart to see through it. Stay strong for your kids
It’s hard to co-parent with someone who’s so inconsistent but you’re handling it with strength and clarity.
His behavior seems manipulative even if he denies it. Trust your instincts they’re usually spot on.
It seems like he’s trying to keep you on the hook while still pleasing the other lady. You’re right to question his honesty.
his actions sound confusing and inconsistent. It’s hard to trust someone who keeps flipping like that
He's toying with your emotions. Don't let him.
u see that ending on what u just said? it came from the heart yk?? if the heart and mind says so then it will say so. No buts, no etc, as a man, i will die for my children and i will never make a mistake where that mistake will make me lose my loved ones. I would do anything to protect my future wife that idk who, i will die for them.
Do you mind telling me or naybe im just gonna assume... he left u guys for this new woman. if he did than as a man, im sorry, it's his loss. He have to understand that actions have consequences, and betrayal will have consequences. NOTHING ELSE, regret came after the guilt happens. This guilt doesn't come naturally, it came from regret and realising that the grass on the other side... is not greener. Im 21 years old sis, still young and learning to face this and that. But at some point, if the mind and heart says this us not right, then it is. im sorry to be involve but again if its about him leaving u guys for this girl or any betrayals, then there will be no second chance. No buts, no no what if, nothing. It already ended -you who did not cut him off. Try to seek comfort from trusted friends or family if u will. Have strength sis. ik u can