I feel heartbroken. I thought my ex was the love of my life and that he was going to be the father of my kids

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I feel heartbroken. I thought my ex was the love of my life and that he was going to be the father of my kids. I know he loves me and truly wanna stay with me but, even though I am in love and I wanted it to be him, I had to break up with him as he is an addict (alcohol and drugs), and he is not 100% willing to change it (he says so, but his actions dont match his words). Now my question is, why even though I am leaving the relationship I feel TERRIFIED when I think he will be having sex with other girls? I feel that this obsessive thought is bringing me back all the time :(

Last updated on:2025-07-18T05:35:03+05:30

Comments (9)

Motionthing
Motionthing 8 mths ago

You’re grieving not just the relationship but the future you imagined with him. It’s okay to feel scared and conflited it’s all part of healing

leaviekovb
leaviekovb 8 mths ago

You made a tough call because you knew you deserved more.

brokenidoit
brokenidoit 8 mths ago

The obsessive thoughts are your mind’s way of holding on to what’s familiar. Over time they’ll fade as you focus on rebuilding yourself

KGrant
KGrant 8 mths ago

The fear you’re feeling is completely normal it’s part of letting go. It doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice it just means you cared deeply

Unhealed
Unhealed 8 mths ago

You did yourself a huge favor by leaving.

Chocoman
Chocoman 8 mths ago

It’s so hard to walk away from someone you love especially when you saw a future with them. But choosing yourself and your peace is such a strong and brave decision

SnapBuzz68
SnapBuzz68 8 mths ago

I think breakup is not a solution ... Do you know that after you leave, it will become more downgrade. uska sath do

FrostByte18
FrostByte18 8 mths ago

well, he was extremely controlling and manipulative over me. He cheated on me to. I don’t think I should tolerate that…

SnapBuzz68
SnapBuzz68 8 mths ago

@FrostByte18 if he cheated ... then why are u saying that he loved uh?