I broke no contact. despite it being only a day so far. I had to tell him I’ll be right here waiting for him. Because I texted his sister and she told me he’s still hurting. and I couldn’t accept how things ended entirely. I know I’m going to move on eventually. I have to let go.. but a small part of me will hold onto hope for us to try again. I know he’s my person, I just have a feeling. until he feels ready to talk again I will be griefing and focusing on being a better person.
Last updated on:2025-07-18T06:54:02+05:30
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It’s hard to let go when you feel that deep connection.
it just means you’re processing things in your own way. You’ll figure it out as you go
Reaching out doesn’t make you weak it shows how much you care. Just remember to take care of yourself too because you matter.
we just need to say what’s on our hearts even if it breaks the rules. You’re navigating this in your own way
You’re following your heart that’s okay. Healing isn’t a straight line and reaching out doesn’t erase the progress you’ve made.
Sometimes breaking no contact feels like the only way to breathe again
do u mind telling me whether u guys ended in good terms or not? bad terms as in he have someone else etc. Good terms, personal
bad terms, a fight. I told him I had a crush on one of his family memebers, and I was trying to get over it and work on it with him but he lost it. I was trying to be honest with him and hope he’s gain some understanding but no.. I shattered his world, betrayed him and broke his trust. He doesn’t trust me anymore. and I guess I’m holding on to any possibly it could work out in the end when I know I really should just move on.. It just hurts like no other.. we tried to go on a break and he still called me baby and we talked a little.. he got me an uber to the hospital.. but I called him yesterday at 5am, and that’s when I told him I was anxious and scared he was leaving me.. and it turned into a really nasty argument and I got angry too.. and he said he’s leaving me. I said fine, even if I was numb for a bit.. I’m here awake at 1:50 am again, I texted him a long paragraph saying how I’ll always love him and I’ll wait for him however long he needs.. and I regret it becase I know I shouldn’t get back with him again.. but I’m hurting so bad I miss him. I messed up.
@Unforgiven okay sis i get the whole point. But im sorry that i have to slap you with reality. im gonna hold your hands and said this harsh words. As a man, what you did was already done. It will not work, and it is also not acceptable. But that is reality, actions have consequences and in terms of your situation, it will end badly. No natter if u guys did go back or etc, that issue will stuck in his mind over and over and over again. As a man, hearing our woman admits that she had someone else in mind shatters our heart. I experienced it too and i have to cut her off, because i cant be a second option no matter how good was the memory, but there are other factor that contributes to my bad ending too.
its very brave and good that u admit to him and try to have proper communication, that is brave of you sis. But its reality yk, some things cant be undone, as in it is what is is. You cant undone what you did but you can learn from your mistakes.
1) lower your gaze towards your future family in laws and friends. IT will help.
2) prevent over friendly and always keep formalities.
3) Always put your partner in mind and discuss proper boundaries. AGREEments between 2 parties.
i get that he called you baby, but it was just a part of attachment yk? the same way i called my ex "my love" the love is there, again love us blinding for him and for me. but i learned my lesson.
Sometimes, its good to keep some stuffs to ourselves and heal it and fight it on our own. Again like i mentioned, if a loved one mentioned that there is someone else in mind, we respond to it differently, it will be a sudden shock to us and some will not be ready for that conversation of a particular "someone else in mind" other than your own partner.
even if u hold on or guys make it work. Trust me. The cycle will always goes on, if u loved him, then its time to give him peace. But u deserve peace too, This rs u talk about will not work. Its time for u to move on and have an upgrade to yourself. But im a stranger, and i can always support u sis, but now, its time for u to better yourself physically and mentally. Please take note of the 3 advices i gave you, it will help for future relationships and future problems. stay strong sis, and yk what to do, wake up to reality now.
@PancakeSmash thank you. thank you for understanding me and forgiving my actions despite not even knowing me. I’m going to take your advice and learn, pain is the best teacher. and I don’t want to hurt someone like that again. Bless your soul 🙏🏽
@PancakeSmash thank you. thank you for understanding me and forgiving my actions despite not even knowing me. I’m going to take your advice and learn, pain is the best teacher. and I don’t want to hurt someone like that again. Bless your soul 🙏🏽
@Unforgiven your welcome my siss, I'll be rooting for you in this app. Remember to always be accountable and seek forgiveness, but forgive yourself first and be better. Have strength