my ex who I was with for eight years dumped me a week ago and we still live together in the same apartmentbeen seven years now. Honestly finding a new place feels impossible right now it's all just super overwhelming. About four weeks back she wanted to talk and said she didn't see a future for us bcause she needs a totally diferent vibe like a 24/7 Dom/Sub thing with me as the Dom. She admitted she'd suppressed it but hoped it would go away. We've always been equals and she's right I just can't give her that I'd have to completely change who I am. We talked it out and I suggested fnding a middle ground maybe therapy but last Friday she just broke up with me. Said she needs the full package and a middle ground wouldn't work. I feel so overwhelmed and powerless. She says she still loves me and I love her too but I know as long as she wants that there's no future for us. It just hurts so freaking much. I love her at the same time I hate her so so much. How is all of this even possible? It's been eight years why now, why so suddenly? None of this makes any sense. we've had our dog for five years and he's hers so I know I'm gonna miss him so damn much.
Last updated on:2025-07-18T19:17:52+05:30
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I’m just going to add my two cents in, she’s going to realize the sub dom thing is massively overrated and realize it’s not worth losing a unique and beautiful 8 year relationship over. Regarding your feelings, you deserve better then this, and your feelings are validated. And sorry about the pup, dogs grow attached like humans do, I’m sure the pup will miss you too.
I know it feels impossible right now but you’ll get through this. One step at a time you got this.
this situation sounds like a whole mess. You’re valid for feeling all this just don’t forget to take care of yourself too
I can’t even imagine how overwhelming this must be. You’re doing your best and that’s all you can do right now
this is heavy. Eight years is a lot and living together after all this? That’s rough.