Feeling extremely anxious these days... Are any of you guys in your 30s?
I'm 2 weeks after breakup. One thing is missing my ex horribly (so weird to call him that đ„ș) â it's a person I saw my future with...
And there is the second thing... I recently celebrated my 30th birthday and that is a scary milestone itself, but breaking up and starting all over again in this age while my friends are getting married and pregnant? That is the next level of desperation. I want a family and my biological clock are ticking loud...
How do you find motivation to move on and how could I possibly believe I will find the right partner while I'm running out of time and meeting new people is not easy for me?
I'll probably start the Tinder grind again after some time but it repels and scares me. I feel too old, too complicated and honestly unlikeable considering I was not able to maintain a relationship up to this point. The searching, the first dates and unsuccessful attempts â so tiring and time-consuming. And even if I find sb, there is a great chance it won't work out and I feel I can't survive another breakup. I'm so scared...
Sorry for the negativity, I just want to know, is there anyone experiencing this too? How do you manage? And when do you think is the right time to open to a new relationship, knowing I need time to heal but also the time is against me?
Last updated on:2025-07-20T17:13:42+05:30
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im 28 and I got dumped this week, we were talking about marriage and then he said that he doesnt love me how he ised to..not sure how how to cope
Honestly 30 is just a number. Youâre not too old or too complicated youâre just figuring out what you actually want and thatâs a flex.
I'm 36 and have a kid with someone and he cheated for almost 2 years and I feel the same way I could never find someone that can be around my kid that is going to be hard and I don't want to date anymore this is going to be so hard I found out days ago.
Tbh dating apps can be a mess but theyâre not the only way. Focus on healing first and the right person will come when youâre ready
donât let societyâs timeline mess with your head. Youâre not late youâre just on your own path.
Breakups hit different when youâre thinking about the future but donât let the clock pressure you
Yo first off youâre not alone in this. Turning 30 feels like a lot but trust me youâre not running out of time. Youâre just getting started.
I feel same nd countinue thinking that how can I manage
whats the reason of ur brkup ..
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We've argued a lot recently... Although he was amazing at showing me love in other ways he was unable to give me emotional support â I am a very sensitive person and he simply lacked empathy if the things I was talking about had no logical explanation for him. It was a burden for him, no matter how hard I've tried to explain I just want to feel heard. We argued because of this single thing but he was not able to see the pattern. Towards the end, he said he thinks people shouldnât have to change in a relationship and felt like we were constantly âputting band-aidsâ on problems. After the breakup, he also confessed that heâs not sure heâs ready for children in the next years, but this was in my opinion pretty much an impulsive claim influenced by his uncertainty he is now experiencing at work. He was talking about family all the time. I know he loved me more than anyone before but at the same time, he loves independence, traveling and once our relationship became serious, he was in an internal conflict. In my opinion, we could have saved things, because our bond was really strong but he is a stone wall and emotional work was not acceptable for him.
@CozyJourney899 so u leave him right... same case mine ... I love her more than anything else.. but she leaves me bcz of she got a nice job... the people comes in her life ... I knw it's difficult but we have no other options
@SnapBuzz68 No, he left me actually. I wanted to try and talk about what we both can do to make it work. But all he saw was constant arguing â which is true and I am guilty of net being able to deliver my point calmly often, being hurt again and again in the same spot.
I'm sorry to hear about your pain. đ Don't get it though â she left because she got a nice job? Did that job require moving or what?
@CozyJourney899 I have 10yr relationship we were together 9th standard...
everything is fine until she get a job...
I'm possessive when she get a job.. she want chill out with her colleagues but I don't want it .. we argue about it nd one day she gone .. no closure no talk .. I'm blocked .. i want her badly ... she was my emotional support...
muje lgta h m usko apni achivement maan betha tha shyd eslie sb hua pta nhi log apna apna dekh k kese decision le lete h ... mene kisi frnd s suna wo ab kisi or k sath h .. pta nhi log kese bhula dete h sb kch kese new life start krlete h muje 10 mhine ho gye m abi tk move on nhi kr pata aisa lgta h kl ki hi baat h na nind aati h na kahi mn lgta h ...