my sons father left me for another girl he cheated with her for almost 2 years I failed alot in the relationship because he had another kid he left his first sons mother to be with me but also cheated almost 2 years until I found out out I tried to leave since he had a family but he begged and I fell for it because I loved him and now he did the same thing but I'm on the other side. have a son with him and he left me to be with her I failed alot in the way that I wasn't always affectionate and I had a hard time accepting his first kid after some time because he wasn't letting me raise him on my own time passed and we did things seperately sometimes him with his son me with our son and sometimes us and our son I feel so much guilt and regret for not accepting his first kid out of anger with my situation and anger that I would never have a perfect family and that he had a kid with someone else I regret so many of my actions and now the guilt and regret combined with the heart break is making me feel like I'm going crazy someone please give me advice what can I do to heal.
Last updated on:2025-07-25T23:23:30+05:30
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. None of this is your fault , his choices to cheat and leave were his, not because you weren’t good enough. It's natural to feel guilt and regret, but please remember that healing starts with being kind to yourself. You’ve been strong through so much pain. Focus on your son and yourself now , you both deserve peace and love. Talking to a therapist or someone you trust might help you process the heartbreak and let go of the guilt. You're not crazy, you're just deeply hurt , and healing takes time. You’re not alone in this
it’s giving you deserve better. Let that guilt go, you’re human. Heal for you and your baby
you can’t change the past but you can build a better future. Take it one day at a time
you’re carrying way too much guilt for something that wasn’t all on you. Focus on you and your son now y’all deserve peace
thanks I needed to hear that.
don’t be so hard on yourself. You did what you could in a tough situation.
I am on day 20. I too a have a lot of guilt - guilt for what I did but I have a lot of anger for her part. A friend said the anger I have for her is just wasted bad feelings - she does not feel it or even care. I gam not a psychiatrist but your taking on a lot of responsibilities or grief for what he did. As you sit in bed or making dinner those feelings are only hurting you. I know it’s expensive but real counseling may be really beneficial. I hope you take this as the act of love in which it was intended