I was 4 the longest time stayed in the same toxic relationship & sexual relationship & every time I asked him what r we all he ever said just friends its more common than u think & what makes us different is listening to u rant& rage& vent & the o talk. like what the fuck pls help I need help bc I'm thinking of going back to him bc I felt happy w/ him but also used. I'm dealing with a toxic relationship where my feelings and boundaries haven't been respected. He's minimized our relationship, calling me "just friends," while I've been emotionally invested.
I'm torn between feeling happy with him and feeling used. I'm considering going back, but I know that's not a good idea. I deserve better than to be hurt again.
To move forward, I might need to focus on my own healing and growth. What are my non-negotiables in a relationship? What makes me feel valued and respected? Exploring these questions could help me make better choices in the future.
I'm still not over him despite everything each & every time I leave him I make excuses why I left why I kept coming back blaming it on my self not him making myself the problem the reason I liked him so much is bc he called me his good girl which is a big turn on me for me he. took advantage of all my insecurities, vulnerabilities, and my weaknesses even my innocence & turned it against me I was virgin who hadn't lost her virginity & he broke me for it by manipulating me gaslighting me in ways it wasn't so he would get jail time 4 it he tricked me fucked with my head so badly by exploiting all of my weaknesses vulnerabilities and insecurities so badly I'm feeling left broken without him that I wanna go back I feel really stuck so stuck I don't know how to really actually get out plz help
Last updated on:2025-07-25T23:29:07+05:30
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I've been through and going through the exact situation,he is the only one I feel comfortable and I can't leave him but deep inside I know that he is ruining me.Instead of telling you to stop thinking about him and block him,I would suggest if you wanna go back do it until you learn your lesson,at least thats what helped me
I understand it's hard right now. You want to go back to the familiarity of how things felt but you forget the number of times you would cry yourself to sleep because of him.
The first step of healing is accepting that you are enough, with or without him. You are your own happiness and you need to love yourself a little bit more.
You have invested a lot in the relationship, it's time to start investing in yourself.
it’s giving toxic vibes. You deserve someone who values you not someone who plays games with your heart. Cut him off
you’re not the problem here. He’s the one who took advantage of you.
going back will only hurt you more. You’re worth more than being someone’s just friends.
you deserve so much better than this. Don’t let him keep you stuck focus on healing finding someone who respects you fr
ok thx I appreciate it I downloaded this app to help me not to make stupid decisions but bc he used everything against me it's hard not to go crawling back
this is how fucked up he is & how fucked he made me
im sorry but you need to wake the fuck up, what u are holding on now is your delusion mind and attachment saying that if u let go, you'll not be in love. Im sorry but this will be harsh, That's the stupidest love story that i will ever hear. Its like u are being gifted to not be blind, but eventually you were the one that stab your eyes.
u gonna marry this person sis? i dont think so? if u do so since u were not so over him, well congrats... your life is ruined already from the start of the marriage. I can't tolerate partners who used their partner to feel better and not properly taking care of boundaries. Im seek of it, same as my ex, i loved her too much to the point i still forgive broken boundaries. the boundaries?? its so stupidly simple and avoidable, but she just can't do it, careless and self sabotage.
i give u two choices, either you are smart or dumb.
1. you leave him and heal yourself and be the better version if yourself, HEAL first before jumping to new rs. people's hearts are not toys to be played with. CUT OFF ALL CONTACTS of this current partner of yours. remove all pictures all of it.
2. you go stuck with him forever where he wont take care of your vulnerability and always just want to fuck fuck and fuck, gaslights you and high probability that he will abandon you with that intolerable stupid behaviour of a man child.
you wanna go back to him?? fine, that's on you, if u want to destroy yourself. Say, if u had a kid or your 8 year's old self was with u, do u wanna lend them to him??? i sure as hell not.
its time to wake your shit up and realize reality. Reality has already an answer, YOU know that u have an alswer already. move forward, dont look back, keep walking, be gone (cut off contact). sorry for the harsh words, but reality is reality.
so trust me I appreciate the harshness bc I need it really badly bc of him I broke contact with him 3 different times be4 I downloaded this app
@temperediris well now ure not gonna break any contact starting now, i believe in you so put in the effort. U have my belief, in shaping your self for your future so dont let me down
@PancakeSmash thx u I really appreciate i don't k any other way to tell u
@temperediris its okay no need to, I'm glad that i help