I feel like I’m functioning but also floating. I was the one who ended it, not bcs I wanted to, but bcs I had to. It was so tiring to keep putting urself aside and make urself feel so little just to accomodate their needs, their feelings. I tried, I tried ti support him through the space and distancing as it made him feel safe and comforted—but what abt me? I keep giving and giving and keep offering my presence just to be met with “we’ll see” or “I’m drained” but when it comes to friends, he was down to hangout. How could someone just leave their “loved” one filled with doubts and connect with a friend while their “loved” one tries and tries to understand and make sense of it all. Why is it that when things are rough, our rs gets affected? That I, too feels too much for him? 😕
Last updated on:2025-07-23T23:31:02+05:30
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i feel this in my chest. like, how do they always have energy for everyone but us? the silence after we give our all is LOUD.
same. i kept thinking if i just loved harder it would finally click. but it never did. it only drained me more.
ugh this hurt to read. i stayed in that exact space way too long. giving and giving while they just... chose everyone else. we’ll see made me feel like a placeholder. you did the brave thing even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.
thank you, and I hope it rlly is the right thing I did❤️🩹
I am in the same position as you, but he broke up with me because he needed space and he thought this space and time apart would let us grow. However, I wasn’t ready for it to end and how can he just give up when I have been trying so hard to be better for him? He was my irreplaceable person.
I honestly understand how that feels. When you are trying your best to learn how to properly love them, and they won’t see it or would rather think of it as incompatibility. I wish they weren’t afraid of closeness, that growth is possible while maintaining a rs. And that eithers mistake doesn’t mean failure. But ig they jst can’t hold us through that…and how I wish they would’ve…
I miss him, so so much. But the thought that I'm suffocating? and that no matter how hard I'll try, I won't ever be enough for someone to choose and fight for?:( idk if I should even contact him again… and ykw? I was scared with my breakup msg. I asked if I felt too much for him only for my end sentence to have “Please don’t reply.” bcs I was scared. I was scared that he found me suffocating:(