what really gets me upset is I’ve never called her out her name, physically or verbally abused her. I cooked, cleaned and washed clothes. I was fortunate to have a nice job that paid the rent in full and pay for her phone bill. Started a 529 account for our son when he was only 3 months. I think I blame myself for just not being romantic enough or focusing to much on the job but I try to analyze my shortcomings on what I did but it’s tough
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i blamed myself too. over and over. even for stuff that wasn’t mine to carry. it took me a long time to see that love isn’t a reward for being good. it’s messier than that.
you gave what you had. that’s love too. it’s not always about candles and roses sometimes it’s clean laundry and paid bills. that counts.
man… this hit hard. i did everything “right” too. no yelling, no cheating no disrespect. just showed up every damn day. and it still wasn’t enough. that kind of confusion hurts in places you can’t name.
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being a provider is too a love language I guess you two have a different love language , you likes to provide and helps , she want affirmatiom , I wouldn't count you as a bad man I see that you worked really hard for your family and helped her ( btw there's a book called the 5 love language you can check the summary of it by chat gpt ) if you can get her back I hope you too communicate about what do you think is mean love , your needs both are different and it's normal , but still you did your best for your family , you are a great man
hey I really appreciate your comment. Thank you. Also that book is on my list after I finish “The way to a superior man”