Hi everyone,
It’s been 21 days since my breakup (he broke up with me). There has been no contact since we exchanged keys shortly after the split. I’ve been doing my best to respect the no-contact rule, even though every day without him has been excruciating. I know I should use the silence to heal, but honestly, my sticking to no-contact is mostly fueled by a naive hope that he might start thinking things through...
But something happened last night. I got a Messenger notification from him — my heart almost exploded — and then I saw the message had been deleted before I could read it.
Now my mind is going *crazy*. Why did he type? What was he going to say? Why delete it? Was it something emotional, or just practical — like asking for his stuff back? (But if that were the case, why delete it so quickly?) It doesn’t seem likely it was just a mistake, since after three weeks of silence he’d have had to actively scroll and open our chat — right?
Part of me wonders if he had a weak moment. Maybe he was drunk. Maybe he talked to a friend and started missing me — and then got scared or changed his mind. It hurts… and gives me hope at the same time.
After an internal battle just to type a single question mark, I didn’t respond. But now I’m stuck. Overthinking, overanalyzing, inventing fake scenarios.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? What do you think it might mean — if anything at all?
And how do you cope when you're spiraling like this?
I feel so confused and fragile. 💔
Last updated on:2025-07-27T12:25:04+05:30
Comments (5)
mine sent hey once after 19 days of silence… then unsent it within seconds. i felt sick. like… did i mean something or nothing? you’re not alone. it’s brutal when hope and pain show up together
it could’ve been anything. and that’s the worst part your brain will make it everything. it’s okay to feel unhinged. i did too.
My mom told me something that helped me a bit, when my wife left. She said, she has the control about leaving and the control of when to come back. I said, that I don't understand what that means. Everyday that passes I understand more.
this hurt to read. i’ve literally been there mine deleted a story reply after a month of nothing. i didn’t sleep for 2 nights. it’s the not knowing that messes with your head. you’re not crazy. this confusion is real.
Well, I understand they too have their struggles. I suppose they drunk a bit or sth and acted on an impulse – but god, is it unbearable. I can't stop thinking about what is going on in his head... Did he reach out later in your case?