Guys i want back my avoidant ex. What should i do. We broke up because she lost feeling for me and blamed her avoidant attachment for that. She showed me she loved so much and told me I mean so much to her etc. And after all of that she lost feelings??? How??? Did she really had them before or she loved the way i loved her and the attencion i gave?? When i asked her, she said that i didnt do anything wrong and i was so good with her all the way through and that she really loved me and she didn't lie either wanted to hurt me. But she did!! The explanation she gave me after was that she was putting me above her and she was afraid of losing herself. But i didnt ask her to do that, i was always kind and tried my best to solve all kind of problems in the relationship. The funny thing is that she wanted me first and now she doesn't have any feelings even though she told me she loved with all her heart???? How do i get her back
Last updated on:2025-07-27T14:05:04+05:30
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mine said the same thing that i was too good and they were losing themselves. i kept thinking i didn’t ask you to do that?? it’s like they make up a version of the relationship in their head that we never even signed up for.
i’ve been with someone avoidant. it’s wild how they can make you feel like their entire world… and then vanish emotionally. it’s not your fault. i know that doesn't help, but it’s not.
this hurt to read. i remember asking myself the same questions when my ex left like was any of it even real?? how do feelings just disappear like that? it messes with your whole sense of truth.
the best thing you can do is not reach out. let her feel your absence. my ex is the same way, and i'm sure he left because i forced him to confront the emotions he felt rather than ignore them. it's something they have to heal from on their own, a lot of the time relationships can feel like they're being trapped, because they now have responsibilities and expectations from someone. they always end up realizing that they didn't want to be alone, and they either fix their problems or don't change. you know her well, if she comes back in the future, it's up to you to decide on whether she changed or not. but don't hold your breath, it's not guaranteed. don't ever stunt your growth for someone else. stay safe 🫶
stop reaching out please. let them feel the pain
keep walking please...i went through the same thing 49 day ago...my nervous system is settling....I am at peace alot of the time. it is amazing.
you deserve more. please believe that
you deserve someone who will love you the same way
have the same kind of ex now I think the best thing is to move on