In fact i know why im struggling so hard with, what if i did this or did that right now. Maybe it would change anything. I know that thats my heart longing for control about the situation. How can i get rid of wanting to control that?
Last updated on:2025-07-29T02:18:02+05:30
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i get that longing for control. for me it was my nervous system clinging to anything familiar. even if it hurt. the wanting didn’t fully go away, but the grip loosened once i let myself grieve what wasn’t mine to fix.
this hit. i kept replaying convos in my head like i could rewrite the ending. it made me feel worse every time.
i used to spiral so hard on the what ifs. like, i thought if i just said the right thing i could undo everything. it took me a while to realize that was just my brain trying to protect me from the hurt.
same here. control gave me the illusion that i could fix it. truth is, i had to let go of fixing and just feel it. that’s when the grip loosened.
i felt this. trying to control the story after it's ended is like rearranging furniture in a house you don't live in anymore. exhausting and pointless.