I’m on day 5 and the atmosphere at home still remains raw. I’ve really started to see him in a different light. he has turned cold and I get the feeling that I irritate him being in the house he have to share. I went out for the day, yesterday and the realisation of not saying when I would for tea felt strange. The atmosphere when I got home was tense, like I had done something wrong ( I did not). My 15 year son is back tomorrow and we will be sitting down to share our new normal. I pray that he will be ok and that this does not send him off the rails.
Last updated on:2025-07-29T02:23:02+05:30
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you’re carrying so much. your son’s lucky to have you anchoring this new normal. i hope he sees your strength through it all
i remember walking into the house and feeling like i had to shrink. like my presence was somehow too loud. it messes with your head. be gentle with yourself.
i felt this in my stomach. that shift—when someone you loved turns cold it’s like grieving someone who's still right there. you didn’t do anything wrong. he just doesn’t know how to be decent in the aftermath.
Thank you for this. After eight years together this came out of the blue that he can no longer be in this relationship. Absolutely heartbreaking, however I accept that I deserve more and there is no going back. Moving out isn’t an option at the moment, I have tennants in the house I thankfully have sole ownership of. I am hoping that that my son is happy to move back. If not it will definitely be more changes that we will need to consider.
I dont know the details of your situation, but sadly I do know how painfull is to share the space with someone who is annoyed by you.. But it is also revealing to see their true colors, the selfishness and ego.. Is moving out an option? Your son will be better seeing you happy divorced, than living in a personal hell of the tension and hate growing under that roof.. And I'm telling you this as a child of parents who never divorced, but never loved each other as well.. Ir ruined my life and led me to chosing wrong partners for myself as well.. You don't want that.