Someone commented on someone else’s post about the YouTube Channel “Coach Lee” and it’s been a Godsend in halting my texts to my ex in their tracks. He basically says if there’s going to be any chance of your ex missing you and possibly wanting to reunite, you have to LET them miss you by going radio silent. Maybe it’s all giving me false hope that he’ll want to get back together one day, which my family members and friends just keep saying to me is going to prevent me from moving on. It’s still fresh! I was with him a year, I literally was planning to move to Canada for him but paperwork and transfer of professional licenses were taking forever. We had a life planned, that’s a hard dream to just get rid of because we’re both being assholes lately to each other because of individual stressors & shit we needed to work on within ourselves. I personally think it could get better with some time to cool off and manage our shit. I hope he’s not done, and honestly it’s so hard to not talk to him at all because he was my best friend and biggest support network for a year, but I’m trying to give him what he asked for. What I worry is since we’re already long distance and it was such a huge effort to visit each other, it’s not like we could one day just casually get a coffee, it would be someone having to fly to the other and if he’s not fully wanting to commit to that anymore because of finances, it’s just adding more nails to the coffin. It sucks. All I can do is keep growing and it’ll make me not miss him as much eventually, and hopefully let go before I realize he’s moved on and never coming back, because that thought still completely breaks my heart.
Last updated on:2025-07-30T01:56:02+05:30
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you’re doing something really hard. i still remember the first time i didn’t text him when i was falling apart—felt like tearing off a piece of my own skin. keep growing. even if it’s just inch by inch
been there. i used to check flights every week just in case. the worst part is feeling like love isn’t enough when distance timing get in the way
How far out from your breakup are you?
this hit way too close. i remember clinging to no contact like it was my only shot at getting him back… and also the only thing keeping me from spiraling. it’s like grieving a person who’s still alive and could come back but might not. brutal.
Did it work for you, did they ever reach out again?