So I guess it's officially over. After 28 days of no contact, he asked to come pick up his stuff...
He came this morning, hugged me, kissed my cheek. He returned a bag with some of my things and we packed his car with his belongings – he had almost lived here, so there was a lot. My dog was overjoyed to see him again after so long, and watching that was absolutely heartbreaking. 🥺
We had some small talk – my driving lessons, his work trips… No emotions. Just business as usual. And he seemed completely fine. I tried to stay calm, too, but I broke a little when he hugged me tightly goodbye, kissed me on the cheek again, and said: "If you ever need anything, just let me know." 😭💔
I collapsed once he left. It felt like the breakup happened all over again – except this time, there’s no hope left. Until now, part of me stayed afloat just knowing we’d see each other again because of the stuff. I held onto the hope that he’d start to miss me, rethink the breakup... Well, I was wrong.
I couldn’t stay silent. I messaged him after: "I guess we'll never see each other again… so I just want to let you know: you were very important to me. Thank you for all the beautiful times."
This is his reply: "We may see each other again. Like I said – if you ever need anything, I’m here. Don’t take it the wrong way, I really love you too. It was beautiful – thank you for everything. ❤️ I hope all your dreams come true. 😇"
And honestly, that hurts more than if we’d ended on bad terms. This felt like closure. Gentle, kind, final. He closed the chapter with peace – and here I am, shattered. I know we love each other and that it wasn’t beyond repair. I believe we could have worked through things. But he chose to give up. And now I have to accept and let go.
But how do you let go of someone you were planning your life with – just a week before the breakup? How do you live with the idea that you’ll never see that person again? It honestly feels like dying.
I have every sign now that it’s really over. And yet… I know I’ll keep clinging to that small, stupid hope that maybe, someday he’ll realize, even though deep down I know that is not like him...
Last updated on:2025-08-01T07:33:02+05:30
Comments (5)
you were holding out for this moment without realizing it. the stuff the last visit maybe even a sign. now that it’s done it makes sense that it cracked everything open.
i felt that part about the dog. mine ran to the door for weeks after. they don’t understand why love disappears. honestly i didn’t either.
I felt this so much.. After my break up I would drift between being angry, hoping for some sign to reconnect and then also some peace in knowing it's over and we can't go back.
I'm sorry you're going through this, it's incredibly tough but you're trying to work on it. You're here. Whatever he feels or the peace he's made doesn't matter. You can't truly know what he thinks or feels. Your peace matters and rebuilding yourself stronger than you were knowing you are truly worth someone's everything. Take it in small steps. If you feel like crying all day or watching movies or listening to sad music, that's ok. You're grieving.. But even though the love might change in time and still be there, you will be renewed and able to look at the world with fresh eyes.
With you 🌿
it would almost be easier If they acted like an asshole. its heartbreaking when it's gentle and peaceful. it does feel like dying. mine did the same a quick kiss on the cheek. A kiss that plays over again and again. But we need to be strong, and we will get through this.
i remember mine saying the same thing. i love you. i’m here if you need anything. like no. you’re not. you left. don’t offer your shoulder after walking away.