guys i need advice - he wrote to me today "what did xyz want" because my older brother called him yesterday when he was drunk

he’s testing if you’ll answer. not asking about you, just the call. happened to me too. i didn’t answer. nothing changed.

i remember breaking no contact just to be polite. every time, it pulled me back in. if it still feels raw, wait. you can always reply later.

5 days no contact and he’s still keeping tabs like that? nah. mine used to find any excuse just to poke the wound. silence was the only thing that made him stop.

weigh the pros and cons, yes you may want to talk to him but will it help you with healing in the long run?

Don't do it! You'll regret it!

no, don't do it

I think you should first question yourself before writing to him.

- *What are my intentions?* Are you looking for closure, trying to rekindle something, or just wanting to check in?
- *What do I hope to achieve?* Are you seeking a response, or is this more about personal closure for you?
- *How might my ex react?* Consider their perspective and potential response.
- *Am I emotionally prepared?* Are you in a stable place to handle potential outcomes?
- *Is this for my benefit or theirs?* Reflect on whether this is about your own healing or if you're hoping to influence their feelings or actions.