I'm devastated today. walked into garage today to see about a problem with my car. got into reception and my wife was there. 6 days I'd gone with no contact. I asked to talk as she walked past. she didn't really want to. I said to her I'm not her enemy and took 1 step forward to move out way of someone else. she literally looks petrified and told me not to come near her. I've never hurt her in our 13 years together but she acted like I've beaten her before. it scared me and I've been worried about it since. I messaged her when I got home apologising for bumping into her and saying I didn't like seeing her look frightened. I don't understand it. Also I messaged about a parcel that she has of mine at her house and I was in the area (for counselling) and if she leaves it outside I'd collect it. she replied she doesn't want me anywhere near the house, again like she's frightened by me. also asked about having my dog for a bit of time (we said 2 weeks ago we'd arrange something) but she said I'm using him as an excuse. that he's settled without me and I can't see him. I'm at a total loss and also that the no contact is starting from day 1 again
Last updated on:2025-08-07T02:06:03+05:30
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she might’ve been building a different story in her head for a while now. it’s wild when you realize you weren’t part of that shift.
i remember when my ex flinched just because i raised my hand to grab something. never laid a finger on her. still messed me up. i’m sorry you're feeling this way.
i gave her nothing to be scared of but somehow i’m the villain. 13 years and she rewrote it in 6 days. i’d rather she just hated me. this is worse.
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I've got a horrible feeling she's going to try turn as many people against me and try playing the victim. My daughter's and her 4 children have all witnessed her physical and verbal abuse towards me. but the more I look into narcissists, what they do is twist the story around to suit themselves. 13yrs together, I always took it and not once since she ended it 3 weeks ago has she apologised for anything. thing is I'd still happily be with her as I love her so much and want to work things out. I'm an idiot