I am struggling with no contact. my bf left the apartment, moved and didn’t really tell me where. I wasn’t a fighting kind but I became emotionally disregulated, cried a lot, felt burden and heartache. I felt used. Ignored and alone. the kind that take but don’t give. why am I unable to let go of someone like this?
Last updated on:2025-08-08T17:35:55+05:30
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he trained you to expect less. people like that don’t leave with noise. he just disappear and leave you holding the mess.
i was the calm one too until he left. then it was just crying and waiting. i hated how small i felt. i get why it’s hard to let go. it’s the not knowing why.
mine walked out like i was a coat they didn’t want anymore. not a word. just gone. i spiraled so bad and they never even asked if i was okay.
mine did the same no explanation and no proper closure. I know now that I would never give him the time of day and that was a tough decision to make but now I am at peace with that and 11 days later with no contact has been peaceful and feels good for me. Whatever his decision was as to why he did this to me I will never know but life goes on and he will never break my heart again EVER !!!
I am definitely not even closed to what I used to be. My friends are surprised I still dont hate him
It's happening to me as well.
Mind you, he expressed to me that he doesn't like my daughter and doesn't want to be a part of her life.
I love my daughter more than anything and I should hate him for everything he said about her, but I still can't :(
I am so sorry he said that, it must hurt you so much. I would say that we are trauma bonded and that’s why we are holding on to something that weighs us down and harms us. are we the same people we were before we met these men? or are we a shadow of what we use to be? I was so light and happy before meeting him. how were you and where would you like to be?