I know this is a relationship app but has anyone gone no contact with their mother

I know this is a relationship app but has anyone gone no contact with their mother. For some perspective, my mother and I are the type that do everything together. my mom has given me an abundance of love and sole attention, she has also made me her best friend. I have gone through every hardship with my mother, my older brothers substance abuse and caring and raising my younger sibling. I have gone through financial difficulty and everything in between. the issue is that I’m now 40 years old, my previous marriage lasted a whole 8 months because my mom wanted me to be with her instead of my husband all the time. we were together all week, lunch, go to work together and come home together. then on weekends we would go out shopping and thrifting and come back and at times I would do an activity with my ex at night (like go to dinner or something). he was fed up. we had to eat what mom made otherwise she would be upset if he bought take out, etc. needless to say it was an emotional desaster for me, I was a little caged puppy. when things started to get worse in my marriage my mom was quick to advise me to get divorced, which I did because at that point the pressure was overwhelming and I was an emotional wreck. fast forward to 7 years past my divorce, I have dated here and there always having the same issues, no time or space for anyone else that’s not “family”. when that person comes over, she is friendly at first but she then quickly (within days) becomes an upset person, giving straight faces and little responses to the men. I have never build a substantial relationship with any man. It’s been a year since I met a guy who wanted to build a life with me. I also haven’t had that in 7 years. we were living together but my mind kept worrying about my mom. I never shared this with him but my body gave signs. I became irritable, hurt and emotional disregulated. my anxiety also became very heightened and I ended up with a 2 month crisis at which point my bf moved out and said he couldn’t do it anymore. the reason was not because of the anxiety but because within those 2 months, the last 3 weeks I stayed with my mom. she gave me tea, a lot of food and supplements. I went to the doctor, er and psychiatrist numerous times until one day I realized I was the only person that could take care of myself. now my bf is living elsewhere but he said we could work things out if we communicate on our needs and desires for the future. we spend a Sunday having lunch, and this Sunday (a week later) the whole day together, talking, having fun, and spending “quality time”. I reached home exhausted but satisfied with what I consider a date. when I got home though, my mom had the worst facial behavior. she continued with “ I don’t give a fuck about your bf “, “you told me you were breaking up and now your going on dates?” and lastly she said “I’ve cut ties with my kids”. I’m a grown woman and those words really hurt. this all came about when I expressed how her facial expressions when I go out and come back make me feel. I explained to her that my marriage failed because I was never available to meet my husbands needs and she said it would of failed anyways. my ex was fed up, but in no way did he want a divorce. she says every man wants to push me to my breaking point. while that may be true or not I don’t know. what I do know is that my mother wants to keep me in a bubble, she talks about us buying properties together and going on trips together. she says that if I’m with anyone I won’t be able to do any of those things because I won’t have the freedom. I explained that I need to set boundaries with everyone but she gives me so much push back. I can’t really afford to live on my own because I pay so much rent with my mother.

Last updated on:2025-08-14T04:25:32+05:30