*“What’s on my mind right now is learning how to focus on myself — not love, not the past, just me. I crave peace, but I struggle to let go. I think I have a problem, because I don’t know how to help myself anymore. I want to be happy, but I keep hurting myself by holding on, by hoping he'll change… but deep down, I know he'll never change. I need to start choosing mysel but I don't know why??
Last updated on:2025-08-13T11:43:03+05:30
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you already know the answer. the wanting is still louder than the leaving.
it’s hard to want peace when your heart keeps pulling you back. i used to feel broken for not knowing how to choose me.
i remember sitting there knowing he’d never change and still wishing he would. it made me hate myself more than i hated him.
It's hard to clear out choose yourself from the get go or while you're hurting over someone. But already being aware of that knowledge helps you, although it might not feel great in the moment, or helpful. It's choosing yourself little by little, it happens in the smallest steps. Here your step was acknowledging your feelings, that you are learning, but also that's it so difficult. This is progress. In a way we should let go of the need to be happy, because chasing happiness hasn't ever been successful, nurturing yourself little by little will bring you to goodness, to a good life where you naturally experience happiness again. Thinking of you. You're not alone in this struggle