I've seen a photo of her, she has lost weight, not in a good way. She smiles in that photo, but I know it's fake just for the sake of the photo. I just can't understand why is she like this? Going full no contact even tho there was nothing wrong with our relationship, it was just a really bad time, why doesn t she want to fix things up..?
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you looking at that photo and trying to make sense of it. but whatever’s behind her smile isn’t something you can change.
True, it is not. I wish it was sometimes tho :(
sending you much courage and strength to deal with this hard period. nothing last forever so a better period will eventually come
do you want to be back with her ? if yes, you can always try but before you try no contact could help you gain clarity on the reality of the situation. what you and the other person can and are willing to offer in the relationship
I have learned things while gone no contact for more than a month now, the question, did she? Or she is still under the illusion that I'm the only reason we broke up. I'd love to be back w her, but..i m still confused.
@AlexHadADay I understand you...are you thinking of approaching her again and asking her if she wants to discuss it or you still want time to understand better what is going on?
sometimes people run even when it’s not fair. maybe it felt easier for her than facing what happened. it’s not about your worth.
Was it easier tho? We are both suffering, but without each other.
mine pretended everything was perfect too while tearing me apart in private. fake smiles are easier than explaining the mess they made.
She wouldn't pretend like that, but neither she did not want to fix anything. Wanted me to only fix my stuff, while she was blaming me for everything, giving me silence treatments or just not communicate what she exactly like I was supposed to know telepathy.
did she not give you a reason for breaking up?
She did "couldn't put up with my avoidant stuff", tried to explain it to her that i couldn't put as much time in the relationship theese months, because of all the stress from the exams, which were really hard and i couldn't afford a fail, because I could ve lost my erasmus funds, also her pressuring me about this everyday, . It was a way to protect herself from having a part of the reason we are breaking up. Never was an avoidant, sure it is hard for me to express my emotions, but I let her know everytime when I needed space and to talk about the problem in cause in a few hours or the next day, never missed what I've said. I never was perfect, had my quirks, but I never left her when it was hard for her.
@AlexHadADay it's interesting for me to hear this side because I am on the anxious side. but you know what whatever side we are on...two people need to try in the relationship. one is not enough. you are focusing on her but could she also put effort as you did and for example told her..let's speak about it tomorrow. or if there were deeper incompatibilities then also thats a bit out of our control. point is that you heal and take your lessons from this relationship so that you can build your skills and be ready for the next one
@PalmDash61 sure, hit me up on my social that I have on my profile, i'd rather talk about it there
you know sometimes there's a lot of things could happened better could fixed but someone knows that but they easily give on let it fix unfortunately
I don't even know anymore, it makes me so mad that is this way.
@AlexHadADay i understand that is definitely real feelings but when people give up on you should do that you deserve real love!!
@DropVibe4 What is real love anyway, she only loved me for the way I loved her, not me. It destroyed me.
@AlexHadADay that's the problem that we love eachother for really we are and still care in my opinion
@DropVibe4 Yeah, it's just..odd that people can't love like this.