Sometimes, I hate that I'm accepting this fate and sometimes I remember what she did to me, how she treated me when I was at my hardest times. It's so many mixed feelings that I just live with them in a weird way. Do you guys think it's alright to try to reconnect with ur ex after 10-14 weeks? What's your opinion about this, because I keep having this urge to do so when time comes.
Last updated on:2025-08-19T23:05:18+05:30
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seems like you’re testing the waters in your head, wondering if the timing makes it safe, your urge alone says a lot about how you’re still tangled up in it
Maybe, maybe not. It was only that day that I ever had this feeling of reconnecting with her in the future. I'm trying to accept that it will be like this and myself. If she wants to contact me sure, otherwise I ll respect the boundary.
those weeks suck and the pull to reach out makes sense, sometimes just talking in small ways helped me feel less… empty, even if nothing changed
She won't talk to me..so idk
man, i get that urge, but every time i tried after a few months it just reopened the same wounds, felt like slamming my head against a wall over and over, you think it’ll be different but it’s not
I don't know, i just get the vibe she ll grow the way I will and things will work out better. But it's like the weirdest vibe i ever got, I don't trust it that much.
There is no point in contacting your ex. It won't go the way you want and that will just make you feel worse.
Yeah, it might go really bad, since last time I did i was in a bad state of mind and got blocked on WhatsApp and Instagram. It was also a few days after our last contact, so it was my bad that I didn't give her space.
I wish my ex would take me back so a second chance wouldn't hurt
Sometimes I wish that too, but then I remember what she did to me, then those fight with the good times. And then I m unsure about it, but I d still somehow want a second chance.
@AlexHadADay 🥲
I think it is important to understand why you want to reconnect with you ex. You wrote that she treated you badly: is she really good for you?
Probably because I truly loved her and I saw a future with her. Honestly, I don't even know how to answer that question, she has done so many things that were wrong, but I was always forgiving and trying to let her understand that It was not okay. most of the time she did not understand that :/. And then when I couldn't do much for the relationship because of my situation she left, like it was something so catastrophic that she couldn't handle( she could most likely but did not want to bother).
@AlexHadADay I get it! I am still in love with my ex too and I would probably forgive him for cheating on me, if he came back. Nevertheless, I think we should use this breakup as a period of time when we can discover self love and self respect again. Do we really want to be treated like shit by someone we love? Do we treat someone we love badly, when we are dealing with our own issues? No. So why do we allow them to do that?
@LindaRG11 I honestly have no idea. You have great points nonetheless. She also keeps stalking my tiktok, so that kinda makes me think she has interest in me, after 30 days of no contact, she does it daily.
@AlexHadADay if she was interested, she would have reached out. Checking one's social media accounts is way too easy
@LindaRG11 I doubt she will, her ego is way too high or who knows maybe one day she ll realize what she has done, but it will probably be too late. As of now I need to take care of myself.